• protist@mander.xyz
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    16 hours ago

    This still happens, but you also still need to be suave about it, which anon was not.

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      16 hours ago

      “Hey, I heard you talking about wanting to date. I’ve been feeling the same way and wanted to see if I could get us a couple drinks?”

      That’s still bad because this is still pretty weird, but just be a bit casual about it instead of: “M’lady most fine, I heard of your plight and wish to save you. Please allow me take you out to dinner next week.” She’s with her friends, sure, but it sounds like she’s been bringing down their night by complaining, so they probably wouldn’t mind if she (somehow) said “yes”. And the suggestion itself involves way less commitment than planning a date.

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        I’ve been out of the game for a while, but I would assume a much better starting point would be buying her a drink. Ask the bartender what she’s having, then offer to buy one for her. “Here’s another drink ma’am, courtesy of that guy over there.”

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          Yeah, this is what you should ideally do in this scenario if you want a date. My comment was starting from “assume you’ve already walked up to her table; how do you even possibly salvage this?”

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            7 hours ago

            “I couldn’t help but overhear you can’t find a date. Well you know who’s got two thumbs and is available?”