We had to rely on so many tricks when tinder was not a thing
@a4ng3l@lemmy.world now:
I also never partook into this sort of approach
I think I safely assumed you were in support of, and possibly engaging in, that approach based on how fervently you were advocating for it. If you are not supportive of it you should have used less self-inclusive language, or been slightly critical at some point. Say stuff like “people did x” instead of “we did x” for example.
To be clear: I never said it wasn’t happening. I said if one were to behave like that it would be called out as weird. Granted, I was in the dating scene at the tail end of the “Pre-Tinder” era. Sites like PoF and eHarmony were around, but lots of dating and mingling was still being initiated in the IRL sphere. Online dating was still seen as a new thing for nerds after all. I am sure things were different in the early 90s and before.
Something being, as you’ve described, standard procedure not so long ago does not make it inherently good. Doesn’t make it inherently bad either. Just have to reassess stuff every now and then.
I am indeed. I also never partook into this sort of approach, not being the « right kind » for this.
I suspect you assume that I was « supporting » or otherwise lounging for this ? That’s not the case just to be clear.
But it was happening, a lot, and I feel it is interesting to remember it to better appreciate how it is now.
You assume so much about me that is actually very sad.
As for how to converse with strangers you could go in a bar and raw start conversations…
@a4ng3l@lemmy.world 8 hours ago:
@a4ng3l@lemmy.world now:
I think I safely assumed you were in support of, and possibly engaging in, that approach based on how fervently you were advocating for it. If you are not supportive of it you should have used less self-inclusive language, or been slightly critical at some point. Say stuff like “people did x” instead of “we did x” for example.
To be clear: I never said it wasn’t happening. I said if one were to behave like that it would be called out as weird. Granted, I was in the dating scene at the tail end of the “Pre-Tinder” era. Sites like PoF and eHarmony were around, but lots of dating and mingling was still being initiated in the IRL sphere. Online dating was still seen as a new thing for nerds after all. I am sure things were different in the early 90s and before.
Something being, as you’ve described, standard procedure not so long ago does not make it inherently good. Doesn’t make it inherently bad either. Just have to reassess stuff every now and then.