Nah, I’m a few months short of 40, just good circumstances I suppose, a dozen good friends, not many people around I don’t want in my life, I’ll just count my blessings
By showing up to parties, inviting them to stuff, and just being generally helpful to them. The ones that reciprocate are worth keeping around, the ones that don’t can go on their way. Getting inviteed to the right parties is part of the luck I suppose
There are clubs for all sorts of stuff, nerdy stuff like chess or magic the gathering, hiking clubs, photography clubs, whatever hobby you have, there’s probably people out there with a club to share it. Just go and be a decent person, good chance you’ll find people who click with you, then you go from there
This can be a problem for people not in or near a city. Hell I live 40 miles from St. Louis and I struggle to find groups without them being the kinds of people I’d feel uncomfortable around. Like I love movies, but every film group I can find are the ones that want to watch movies while drunk or go get drunk afterwards. I can’t stand being around people drinking alcohol cause they tend to always be annoying (from personal experience anyway cause I’ve never been around a pleasant drunk person). Same thing happened when I finally saw a video game group on Meetup. Granted it seemed odd cause it was at someone’s home, but I signed up for it. Only for the host to message everyone the night of how much alcohol he had and where to put more at without mentioning if they had any non-alcoholic drinks.
Yeah, I quit drinking, so I get that, especially in places where that’s the main form of entertainment. I’m not surprised my advice doesn’t account for everybody, we’re all on our own journeys, and the world ain’t necessarily easy mode
people really don’t appreciate how barren anytown USA is…want to drive 30m to nearest movie theater or get drunk in a cornfield, maybe smoke weed and watch a movie at home, alternatively get drunk at local dive bar… those are your 4 options for culture
I must be the luckiest person on the planet according to this stuff. I ought to feel more blessed honestly
You’re probably also quite young. In my 20s I had a huge friend circle. 20 years later it shrank to just a few.
Nah, I’m a few months short of 40, just good circumstances I suppose, a dozen good friends, not many people around I don’t want in my life, I’ll just count my blessings
Where did you meet your friends?
By showing up to parties, inviting them to stuff, and just being generally helpful to them. The ones that reciprocate are worth keeping around, the ones that don’t can go on their way. Getting inviteed to the right parties is part of the luck I suppose
How do you get invited to parties without friends?
Wait for people to buy cases of beer at the store and follow them. With a bit of luck, you can blend right in.
This is several of the plotlines running through Superbad.
This seems like bad advice.
Not if you also bring a case of beer yourself
Sure, if you’re a skateboarding legend.
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There are clubs for all sorts of stuff, nerdy stuff like chess or magic the gathering, hiking clubs, photography clubs, whatever hobby you have, there’s probably people out there with a club to share it. Just go and be a decent person, good chance you’ll find people who click with you, then you go from there
This can be a problem for people not in or near a city. Hell I live 40 miles from St. Louis and I struggle to find groups without them being the kinds of people I’d feel uncomfortable around. Like I love movies, but every film group I can find are the ones that want to watch movies while drunk or go get drunk afterwards. I can’t stand being around people drinking alcohol cause they tend to always be annoying (from personal experience anyway cause I’ve never been around a pleasant drunk person). Same thing happened when I finally saw a video game group on Meetup. Granted it seemed odd cause it was at someone’s home, but I signed up for it. Only for the host to message everyone the night of how much alcohol he had and where to put more at without mentioning if they had any non-alcoholic drinks.
Yeah, I quit drinking, so I get that, especially in places where that’s the main form of entertainment. I’m not surprised my advice doesn’t account for everybody, we’re all on our own journeys, and the world ain’t necessarily easy mode
I suspect my tiny town might be less diverse than you think! But I appreciate the advice. Much gratitude to you.
people really don’t appreciate how barren anytown USA is…want to drive 30m to nearest movie theater or get drunk in a cornfield, maybe smoke weed and watch a movie at home, alternatively get drunk at local dive bar… those are your 4 options for culture
You know, I’ve never gotten drunk in a cornfield, but there is one across the street from my house …