Adding my support to the other comments. Going no contact with toxic relations is so freeing and healthy.
I cannot know your situation and how feasible going no contact is, but if you feel the need to do it I can say I’ve never heard or heard anyone voice regret going no contact with their toxic relatives.
Edit to add: I was surprised at being happy when my daughter couldn’t remember her grandmother’s name.
I understand, having been in similar circumstances. I sincerely hope the best for you. I don’t know if this will be encouraging or discouraging, but it took me until I was in my 40s to finally be able to go full no contact with my family. No matter hoe long it takes, it’s definitely worth your mental health when you can safely do it.
then they sush me for being rude. it’s their conversation not mine, just because it’s my family doesn’t mean I get to be in the conversation
Aaaand that’s when I’ll absolutely escalate. Let me guess, they try to call subservience “maturity”.
that’s when they’ll be more upset then they’ll gaslight me to blame me.
wanna go no contact
Adding my support to the other comments. Going no contact with toxic relations is so freeing and healthy.
I cannot know your situation and how feasible going no contact is, but if you feel the need to do it I can say I’ve never heard or heard anyone voice regret going no contact with their toxic relatives.
Edit to add: I was surprised at being happy when my daughter couldn’t remember her grandmother’s name.
I’m in a very complicated situation and cannot go no contact without risking homelessness/deportation/losing my kids.
I understand, having been in similar circumstances. I sincerely hope the best for you. I don’t know if this will be encouraging or discouraging, but it took me until I was in my 40s to finally be able to go full no contact with my family. No matter hoe long it takes, it’s definitely worth your mental health when you can safely do it.
hopefully I’m able to do that by 40, only 3 years left, as soon as my greencard clears and I can finally work, I’ll be free
It will all work out and I wish you the best ❤️
Do it. I’ve cut out people who have no respect and regret nothing.
Best decision I made in life was to never say a word to my mother again.