I **** hate some off the pills my partner has to take. In 2025 we had sex only 3 times. I am so darned horny sometimes but get no help. Bought toys to do it myself but it is not the same.
He had his dokter subscribe some kind off ‘blue pill’ ( not the famous one but like that ). His libido is so low he did not even bother to take one.
Even his sexsomniac nights are reduced to almost nothing. He sometimes has his ‘feel if it is a woman next to me’ move. And the ‘nipples need to be there’ move. But no wood for me even so that i am manually trying to get him to show his growing capacities. Frustrating to be awakend for nothing.
And than a few weeks ago i went to his gaming room and noteced him on porn. With a erection in the hand stroking his way to enjoyment. I felt really unwanted there. I don t care for the porn ( stupid soft stuff. boring imo ) i was more upset he did not come to me to have his way with me.
I’m gonna guess (and could be wrong) that your partner is doing it to relieve the tension but libido is too low to perform sexually. Masturbating alone can be easier to accomplish in this case.
He might be trying to avoid losing the erection while literally inside you because that just feels bad for both of you
Porn will kill a guys attraction to normal looking women. I have no idea why people act like its a good thing to watch it.
It literally trains your brain to constantly need more dopamine. So sure, maybe now its soft stuff, but that will not be enough in six months. Thats how it works.
Tbh. Even when we dated ( 18 yrs ago ) he watched that soft stuff. He hated to see fake boobs, fake lips, blowjobs, more than 1 on 1 , anal,… And still doos.
That is not the reason he doos not gets ‘a fun guy’
This is only my experience, so take what follows for what it’s worth (not much).
I have been in the same situation as your partner (though I had sex with my partner more ofte, but still way less than before medication).
Simply put, I was ashamed of my low libido and not in a good headspace even with my medication( which was supposed to help).
I was so ashamed that I didn’t want to initiate sex with my partner. It was not rational, but that is how I felt at the time. And I would sometime watch porn so that I could get the dopamine I would get from sex, without the shame.
I know it won’t make you feel better, but hopefully you can have a different perspective on how your partner might feel and get, hopefully, a new track to find a solution to your problems.
Also, there are some medications that can help with libido (Wellbutrin if I remember correctly). Might be worth it for your partner to check with his doctor.
I used to take Wellbutrin, and my bf hated it. I was always like “Eh, helloe.” Even when he punished me, talked to me dirty and did petplay (my biggest kinks/things I like to do while having sex). It was horrible. I’m now on Vyvanse and am fine now. But I do take 3 medicines, one for ADHD, one for depression, and one for PTSD. (Feel free to inquire why I have PTSD and/or depression) Although it works for me, it might not work for everybody else.
I **** hate some off the pills my partner has to take. In 2025 we had sex only 3 times. I am so darned horny sometimes but get no help. Bought toys to do it myself but it is not the same.
He had his dokter subscribe some kind off ‘blue pill’ ( not the famous one but like that ). His libido is so low he did not even bother to take one.
Even his sexsomniac nights are reduced to almost nothing. He sometimes has his ‘feel if it is a woman next to me’ move. And the ‘nipples need to be there’ move. But no wood for me even so that i am manually trying to get him to show his growing capacities. Frustrating to be awakend for nothing.
And than a few weeks ago i went to his gaming room and noteced him on porn. With a erection in the hand stroking his way to enjoyment. I felt really unwanted there. I don t care for the porn ( stupid soft stuff. boring imo ) i was more upset he did not come to me to have his way with me.
So i would say… A dickie … yes i remember.
I’m gonna guess (and could be wrong) that your partner is doing it to relieve the tension but libido is too low to perform sexually. Masturbating alone can be easier to accomplish in this case.
He might be trying to avoid losing the erection while literally inside you because that just feels bad for both of you
Porn will kill a guys attraction to normal looking women. I have no idea why people act like its a good thing to watch it.
It literally trains your brain to constantly need more dopamine. So sure, maybe now its soft stuff, but that will not be enough in six months. Thats how it works.
Tbh. Even when we dated ( 18 yrs ago ) he watched that soft stuff. He hated to see fake boobs, fake lips, blowjobs, more than 1 on 1 , anal,… And still doos.
That is not the reason he doos not gets ‘a fun guy’
This is only my experience, so take what follows for what it’s worth (not much).
I have been in the same situation as your partner (though I had sex with my partner more ofte, but still way less than before medication).
Simply put, I was ashamed of my low libido and not in a good headspace even with my medication( which was supposed to help).
I was so ashamed that I didn’t want to initiate sex with my partner. It was not rational, but that is how I felt at the time. And I would sometime watch porn so that I could get the dopamine I would get from sex, without the shame.
I know it won’t make you feel better, but hopefully you can have a different perspective on how your partner might feel and get, hopefully, a new track to find a solution to your problems.
Also, there are some medications that can help with libido (Wellbutrin if I remember correctly). Might be worth it for your partner to check with his doctor.
I used to take Wellbutrin, and my bf hated it. I was always like “Eh, helloe.” Even when he punished me, talked to me dirty and did petplay (my biggest kinks/things I like to do while having sex). It was horrible. I’m now on Vyvanse and am fine now. But I do take 3 medicines, one for ADHD, one for depression, and one for PTSD. (Feel free to inquire why I have PTSD and/or depression) Although it works for me, it might not work for everybody else.
Wellbutrin can make things go in the other direction, masturbating is like cleaning the trigger of a loaded gun with an oven mitt.