• Nangijala@feddit.dk
    7·
    10 hours ago

    I prefer to be on the pill, honestly. I get that it isn’t the sane experience fir everyone, but there are multiple other options other than the two mentioned. Even when it comes to pills, there is also the mini pill which has no estrogen and therefore can help with some of the negative symptoms. I started taking that one because I had a few negative reactions to regular birth control pills.

    With the mini pill you have to be pretty precise with the time of day where you take it but once you have that down, it’s just so pleasant. In my case, it entirely stops menstruation and stabilizes me. I get to live a very normal life without all this cycle shit disrupting me.

    I get that not all women feel about their periods like I do, but for me, it has always felt like an assault on my body that I have to be in pain, have crazy mood swings and feeling gross every single month. I don’t have any of it anymore thanks to the mini pill.

    Again, there are many more options to go for when it comes to birth control, other than pills and condoms and in general I don’t want us to demonize it. Especially not in these times where there is a genuine push in American politics to spread anti-birthcontrol propaganda online.

  • endless_nameless@lemmy.world
    2·
    7 hours ago

    It’s my personal opinion that having sex with a condom is worse than not having sex, and I’m not getting a vasectomy until I’m confident I never want kids. Their reversibility is dubious at best and it’s not worth the risk if you aren’t 100% sure. I’m pretty sure I’ll never have kids, but I’m not even confident enough about how I’ll feel a decade from now to get a tattoo… so making such a big choice is out of the question.

    I’m happy to just not have sex with women who aren’t on birth control. If you feel this is wrong, the solution is simple. We can just not have sex together. Problem solved.

    • EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com
      1·
      2 hours ago

      until I’m confident I never want kids

      With the way the world is going, reproducing is certainly a choice. But if it truly remains a concern, there is the option of freezing sperm.

      I got a vasectomy and it has been amazing. Easily one of the best decisions of my life.

    • GladiusB@lemmy.world
      4·
      8 hours ago

      Mostly because the women I have been with were long term and they preferred not having a condom and on the pill. So I agree with them. It does feel better. But I always try one for the first few times. But it always migrated to not using one.

  • HalfSalesman@lemmy.worldEnglish
    25·
    17 hours ago

    Condoms do 100% suck. Especially if they hacked off a piece of your dick that significantly reduces its sensitivity and function when you were a baby.

    I literally do not enjoy condom sex at all. That’s why I got a vasectomy. And also I don’t want kids ever anyway and I wish I had gotten a vasectomy the instant I hit 18, what a waste.

  • kinther@lemmy.world
    20·
    19 hours ago

    You don’t want a kid? Man up and get a vasectomy.

    Took ~2 days of discomfort afterward and now I’m shooting vegan cream pies all day long.

  • RBWells@lemmy.world
    12·
    17 hours ago

    I had trouble till (hormonal) IUD, would never discount the side effects of most birth control available to women - copper IUD nearly killed me with hemorrhage, and pills raised my blood pressure, anything that went inside me (diaphragm, etc) either gave me yeast infection or bladder infection, so many of the methods seem designed to punish women for wanting sex without pregnancy.

    But I’d think guys would love condoms because it’s the only reversible birth control they can control themselves.

  • untorquer@lemmy.world
    13·
    18 hours ago

    Penis owners can get the ✂️✂️ with nearly no pushback. It’s a few days of recovery and doesn’t impact anything. Less anxiety, more libido. If your family plans don’t include more children than you have at this very moment then just do it.

  • Sunsofold@lemmings.world
    2·
    12 hours ago

    This image bothers me, and I think it’s because it’s formatted like a comic but contains neither a joke nor an anti-joke. It’s the setup without a punchline. Could they not come up with a punchline?

  • Tattorack@lemmy.world
    83·
    1 day ago

    The amount of guys I’ve met in my whole life who outright refused to wear a condom was… One. Singular.

    Called him an idiot. Then he ended up catching an STD. His dick burned for two weeks and I couldn’t stop smiling.

    Anyway, this seems to be another one of those comics that tries present abnormal behaviour as a common thing.

    • OkeyEffect@feddit.org
      1·
      2 hours ago

      The point is not how common or uncommon this is. The point is the phenomenon itself. Also, your personal experience in how common this is cannot be used as a basis for knowing the general prevalence. The truth is, it does happen. Not all men, but always men.

      • dil@lemmy.zip
        2·
        11 hours ago

        Idk why the comment acts like woman themselves dont choose to do it outside of relationships

    • colourlessidea@sopuli.xyzEnglish
      14·
      24 hours ago

      Depends on where you live/your cultural context. The number of times I’ve heard from women in recent years that men refuse to wear condoms has been truly surprising.

      • imetators@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        11·
        21 hours ago

        Surprises me cause I bet decent men won’t have problems with a condom while most substandard men would. No one talks about decent men as much as ones that are bad. Also, if you hear many speak about these men, maybe their preference in men is flawed?

  • Allero@lemmy.today
    35·
    1 day ago

    If your oral contraceptives cause you any significant side effects, it makes sense to consult a gynecologist to change the prescription. There are many options out there, and correctly chosen ones should not typically cause them.

    In terms of pregnancies, oral contraceptives can be both more or less efficient that condoms depending on the mode of usage for each (and also discipline, don’t skip either). Besides, for many couples accidental pregnancy is a bit of a change of plans, but not something that will warrant abortion or make children unwanted. Again, case-dependent.

    It’s okay to choose condoms as well, as long as partners are happy about it. If that gives you a peace of mind, you can even combine both measures at the same time! It’s only important to remember that there are two (or more) partners involved, and all being happy about the choices made is crucial for great intimacy. Do not ever force someone to take pills if they don’t want to, and discuss your options if someone has issues with condoms. Maybe the issues are with latex condoms specifically, with polyurethane options providing less allergenicity and better sensitivity. Maybe a diaphragm can be your option. Or maybe something else. You can always discuss, you’re not on a gender war or something, you’re partners.

    Personally, I can’t wait for male contraceptive pills to hit the market. Not only it will provide a solution to this specific problem, shifting responsibility for proper selection of contraception and any issues coming with it onto the people who need it the most, it will also provide men with more agency about their reproduction. Finally, you can combine male and female contraceptives to get unparalleled non-barrier protection with good insurance in case one partner misses the pill. Win all-round.

    • paultimate14@lemmy.world
      7·
      17 hours ago

      IUD’s can be great too. My wife has used them for years. Reduced period frequency and severity, higher effective rate of contraception, no need to worry about taking a pill late or missing one. Her gynecologist said it will probably reduce pre-menopausal symptoms too when she gets older. And it’s pretty easily removable.

      There was a couple of weeks when she was sore from the initial placement, and the same whenever it gets changed. They keep on getting approved to last longer and longer- the most recent one was good for 8 years, but there’s a good chance it will get extended before it needs to be replaced as more research is done.

      Not for everyone, but great for a lot of people.

    • Allero@lemmy.today
      26·
      15 hours ago

      On another personal note, sexual discomfort is obviously an important factor to account for when talking about intimacy and love, so it shouldn’t be seen as stupid and unimportant, as portrayed here.

      That should not overpower any health concerns, not least because they are too sources of discomfort, but it should be taken into account.

      Talk it through with your partner - you’re in it together, and there’s almost certainly an option for both of you. Feel free to explore something other than pills and condoms as well if you need it - the world of contraception methods is huge.

      • Allero@lemmy.today
        5·
        19 hours ago

        I’m so very tired of these pointless gender wars, honestly.

        There are better and more productive ways to voice general concerns - there truly exists a pressure on some women to use hormonal contraception, and this is bad - it’s not okay to pressure your partner in matters of health and intimacy. But what helps is getting to the root of the problem.

        The root is sexual discomfort on one side and anxiety on the other standing in the way of intimacy. So, maybe there are other unexplored options to resolve this conflict in a way that is comfortable to all sides? The world of contraception is very rich, and tries to cater to everyone’s use cases.