• wavebeam@lemmy.world
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      2 hours ago

      This is what my wife and I did. I think it is a good thing to do, but if you look at my comment history just one comment down from this, you’ll see good reason for what I’m about to say:

      Not everyone should do this. It is extremely challenging, and its not something I think most people can take on successfully. Unfortunately, the fact that a kid is in a situation to be adopted means they have been severely impacted by trauma, which means that they will be considerably harder to parent than a kid you have biologically.

      It is not for the faint of heart. Hell, its not even for those of a strong constitution. I have been nearly broken many times, and I’ve only been parenting my kids for 5 years. I have wanted to quit countless times.

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        I was adopted - abandoned at the hospital after birth. Not every adoptee has a deeply traumatic past that makes it hard to raise them.

        Likewise many bio children are just as capable of being stressful and challenging to raise.

        Glad to see you’ve gone this route and thank you for doing so. I just wanted to dispel some fears for others.

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        56 minutes ago

        Wish you both the best of luck and send a hug. I hope the tide turns and you get to enjoy it more with time. We need more people like you in this world.

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      Nah, people are way to stupid.

      Just look at all the comments already saying that “we need to have kids because are have smart genes and we need to fight against the evil stupid genes of the shit people”

      • Digit@lemmy.wtf
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        Isn’t that what you’ve just done?

        Was that an intentional joke?

        I’d rather look to egalitarian emancipatory remedies, than dwell on defeatism and succumbing to ploys of "pitchforks vs torches, or opposaming in service of the polluting oligarchs and kakistarchs.

        Avail the suppressed clean emancipatory techologies, abundance is restored, people no longer feel the economic duress, “it’s easy to be an angel in heaven”, and we’ll see “it takes a village”, and can all eagerly help care for the ever dwindling “unwanted kids”.