We usually default to these positions: many women’s love language is through acts of service and cooking is a big one, and many guys eat the garbage they “cook” happily (I’m one of those). The distribution of labour follows these sexually-divided realities, same with taking out the trash, killing the mice and cleaning the shower drain.
I’m a woman and I’m all about doing things for the people I love, but I don’t really cook. I’ll happily unclog a shower drain, put together furniture, change your spark plugs, but I hate cooking. Nothing makes me feel attracted to someone quite like when they cook for me; it makes me feel so loved. I joke that the worst part of being single is having to make my own dinner and do my own grocery shopping. I eat so simply now because I refuse to actually cook for just myself.
It’s a good 80/20 split from what I’ve seen. My brother is the chef (and boy can he cook, lol), also the anxious one, the one who plans, in his relationship and his girl is the no-nonsense, “gets her hands dirty” person. As long as we find someone who complements us we’re solid. My wife’s pretty easygoing and I’m a maniac underneath, for example. 🤣
Some default to those positions because we live in a misogynistic society that promotes that thought. Everyone of my closest friends and last couple of bosses are male and the primary chefs I. Their households. My wife usually takes out the trash, recently set mouse traps, cleared one, but I usually do the hair job. Not because I’m a man, but because hair is gross and my wife doesn’t deal well with slimy drain hair. This idea of “pink job” and “blue jobs” (my label not yours) is antiquated and bad.
I didn’t make a value judgement on it, just saying how it usually goes, and of course I can’t account for people’s idiocy and the very Western, redpill, confused and closeted homosexual take of “we’re competitors instead of complementary, women bad because women are feminine”. I mean, my mom’s basically a brain with a mouth, she’s a lawyer who’s also a historian now because she went back to uni in her 60s, lol, and she has never, not even once, cooked us a meal. It’s just not her strong suit, it takes her 30 mins to make a cup of tea which is why my brother ended up becoming the family’s chef, and that’s fine cause she’s always brought home the bacon and paid for everything in my very comfortable childhood, maids included. 🤷
But maybe, on average, men are better with/more suited to do/less hesitant to do gross things (that are not like bodily stuff), among other things like physically demanding things, and potentially dangerous and stressful things (I know women give birth and this fits all three categories and to the highest degrees, lol, but that’s because we’re all very yin yang, the exception that proves the rule if you wish), and women are better at other stuff on average and then over time and across societies we see it and that’s just a reality of things. Maybe the nice boyfriend is baking, sure, and that’s great, but across cultures women seem more motivated to do so. Again, just a description, any value judgement is kinda pointless and misplaced here, because “pink” and “blue” jobs need to get done and are important (but of course misogynistic folks and those without much reading comprehension and a victim complex will see what they wanna see).
We usually default to these positions: many women’s love language is through acts of service and cooking is a big one, and many guys eat the garbage they “cook” happily (I’m one of those). The distribution of labour follows these sexually-divided realities, same with taking out the trash, killing the mice and cleaning the shower drain.
I’m a woman and I’m all about doing things for the people I love, but I don’t really cook. I’ll happily unclog a shower drain, put together furniture, change your spark plugs, but I hate cooking. Nothing makes me feel attracted to someone quite like when they cook for me; it makes me feel so loved. I joke that the worst part of being single is having to make my own dinner and do my own grocery shopping. I eat so simply now because I refuse to actually cook for just myself.
It’s a good 80/20 split from what I’ve seen. My brother is the chef (and boy can he cook, lol), also the anxious one, the one who plans, in his relationship and his girl is the no-nonsense, “gets her hands dirty” person. As long as we find someone who complements us we’re solid. My wife’s pretty easygoing and I’m a maniac underneath, for example. 🤣
Some default to those positions because we live in a misogynistic society that promotes that thought. Everyone of my closest friends and last couple of bosses are male and the primary chefs I. Their households. My wife usually takes out the trash, recently set mouse traps, cleared one, but I usually do the hair job. Not because I’m a man, but because hair is gross and my wife doesn’t deal well with slimy drain hair. This idea of “pink job” and “blue jobs” (my label not yours) is antiquated and bad.
I didn’t make a value judgement on it, just saying how it usually goes, and of course I can’t account for people’s idiocy and the very Western, redpill, confused and closeted homosexual take of “we’re competitors instead of complementary, women bad because women are feminine”. I mean, my mom’s basically a brain with a mouth, she’s a lawyer who’s also a historian now because she went back to uni in her 60s, lol, and she has never, not even once, cooked us a meal. It’s just not her strong suit, it takes her 30 mins to make a cup of tea which is why my brother ended up becoming the family’s chef, and that’s fine cause she’s always brought home the bacon and paid for everything in my very comfortable childhood, maids included. 🤷
But maybe, on average, men are better with/more suited to do/less hesitant to do gross things (that are not like bodily stuff), among other things like physically demanding things, and potentially dangerous and stressful things (I know women give birth and this fits all three categories and to the highest degrees, lol, but that’s because we’re all very yin yang, the exception that proves the rule if you wish), and women are better at other stuff on average and then over time and across societies we see it and that’s just a reality of things. Maybe the nice boyfriend is baking, sure, and that’s great, but across cultures women seem more motivated to do so. Again, just a description, any value judgement is kinda pointless and misplaced here, because “pink” and “blue” jobs need to get done and are important (but of course misogynistic folks and those without much reading comprehension and a victim complex will see what they wanna see).
Confirmed. My wife does not consume my “cooking”. She will let me grill though…sometimes.