Different people will approach those social situations differently. Work, play, drinking, hanging out, flirting … everyone has their own ideas of what they enjoy or find inappropriate or don’t know how to engage with in various settings. The same individual is often wildly inconsistent across different settings.

Personal adaptability and the willingness to apologise or double-down according to what the other party expects are the only ways to avoid getting one’s feelings hurt and/or hurting others across a broad-range of experiences and individuals.

Of course, social isolation and intentionally keeping a small circle and/or routines are also valid options.