To be clear, I don’t think people are transphobic if they disagree with my solution. I think they are sharing a transphobic view if they share that the solution is to exclude trans people. We can completely divorce this conversation from my idea of how to solve the issue. People far more qualified than you or I will be the ones to figure this out. I can only hope that they will not so willingly throw trans folk under the bus.

You mention disability sports and open mic nights.

I’m not disabled, nor have I studied this, so I can’t speak to how they feel about having a total separate set of events. Whether or not it is acceptable is not for me to comment on. It feels, to me, a bit exclusionary in an icky way, but I can’t begin to comprehend the lived experiences of the disabled and how or why disabled sport being its own thing has been good or bad for them.

Open mic nights being inaccessible to deaf folks is perhaps a bad example, because sign language interpreters are well established and if they wanted to make their open mic night accessible they could, very easily.

Anyway, I appreciate that you have taken the time to have a discussion about this but I think I’d like to disengage from this thread now - keep well