• moakley@lemmy.world
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        Cuckolding doesn’t imply consent. In fact it pretty specifically implies that the man doesn’t know it. The word has been in the English language for almost a thousand years, whereas the fetish is relatively new.

        Fun fact: giving someone “bunny ears” by putting two fingers behind their head used to be referred to as “the horns of the cuckold”, and it meant that you were saying that person’s wife had been unfaithful.

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        5 hours ago

        4chan/Incel culture has co-opted “cuckolding” from a consensual kink to mean just plain old getting cheated on.

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          So you really think the fetish came first? Because the word predates the modern fetish usage by like 800 years.

          It comes from the cuckoo bird, which engages in nest parasitism. It lays its eggs in another bird’s nest to be raised by birds that aren’t its parents.

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          Kink culture has co-opted it from plain old getting cheated on to a consensual kink.

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          …if you’re not going to do anything about it, i.e. watch it happen, that’s the definition of cuckoldry

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      Have you never heard the lyrics?

      I have probably heard this song over 10k times, if I’m lucky. If you were alive in the UK in the 00s, there was no fucking escape.