Just good parenting
Cat parents? We hoomans are just mere caretakers. Butlers. Slaves.
My cat was born from a stray, and I took it upon myself to raise her. She acts like she doesn’t remember what it was like to be outside for two years of her life, as she has completely adapted to her regal lifestyle with no interest in going back outside ever. She is convinced that water straight from the tap is better than water straight from the tap into her bowl. She also will drink from the puddles on the floor after a shower, because that is somehow also better than water in her bowl. She also scratches at doors she wants open. She also was mad at me for an entire day for the two or three drops of flea medication.
Like, I’m not saying I understand how ancient people worshipped cats.
I am saying that I’m not sure how future archeologist will be able to determine that I don’t.
You can’t say all that and not post a pic!
So precious 🥹
Such a baby
Before we got our kitten (2 years old) our older cat (8 years old) only had a handful of very similar meows. Sure, there would be tone so you could kinda guess what he wanted, but they were all variations of the same. The new kitten comes in, and she’s a chatter box. She makes so many different sounds, you can always tell what mood she’s in, what she’s doing, and what she wants. It’s lovely.
The problem with this is that she’s started teaching the older cat new sounds, so on top of his normal sounds he’ll occasionally make one that I’ve never heard him make before. And it’s absolutely disorienting. He’ll make a noise and look at me expectantly, and I will have absolutely no idea what he wants. He’s always good to show me what he wants, but man must he think I’m an idiot now.
Sometimes my grown ass cat would made this really pathetic kitten squeak and I would pick him up like a baby and kiss him. He did it when he wanted attention and cuddles. I think cats are like kids, where you end up with these extremely specific “games” that everyone knows the rules to, but nobody would be able to write them down lol
Only one of my cats is a chatterbox, but I have no idea what any of his meows mean. He looks somewhere, screams, looks somewhere else, screams again, looks at me, screams. He doesn’t even differentiate at all, because he uses all of his different meows for the same things. I think he just likes to talk, because he’s been like that since he was a kitten.
I think he just likes to talk, because he’s been like that since he was a kitten.
Talk back to him, maybe he just wants a conversation 🥰
Yeah, but you train well.
Oh, sure. Cats, and dogs, too, can learn how to speak in their own sort of language like that. It’s simple, but effective sometimes.
For my cat, it’s mostly limited to:
- hello
- hey (to get my attention)
- I want something
- expressing happiness
- expressing unhappiness
- I am angry
- I am scared
From my last 2 dogs, one could let me know a number of specific things based on context. (Including, the spin that means: I need you to open this specific gate, or I’m just going to jump it, and not come home for a day.)
The other one just had I need something NOW, and then various emotions (and being hungry was an emotion, and he had it all the time lol).
Cats and dogs. All my pets over the years, I could decipher different wants and needs from sound or body language. They train us just as much as we train them.
Cat parents
Your cat is a grown ass adult. You’re a grown ass adult. You’re not the parent of your cat. It’s your pet, your friend, or your family member. But it’s not your kid.
Your cat is a grown ass adult
Actually I’ll think you’ll find he is, in fact, a darling widdle baby boy.
Calm your tits bruv.
My parents and I are all grown ass-adults.
All family members are members of the family.
I’m guessing your parents didn’t adopt you as an adult. Nevertheless I’m sick of this pet parent thing .I have a human child and when we were recently visiting my wife’s brother, who has 2 lovely cats, he couldn’t stop comparing his cats with our kid. Like when we were talking about how our kid is like this or like that, he would always reply “yes I totally understand, my cat is the same way!”. It’s so obnoxious. Like I’m super happy you love your cat but it’s really not the same! He even dared to say we had it easy because he and his girlfriend were both working full time while my wife currently does not work, so we must have an easier time caring for our newborn baby than they have caring for their two adult ass cats who sleep 16 hours a day! It’s insane. I’m going insane! It’s not the same!
Okay I’m going to make allowance for the fact that of course you are insane from the intense responsibility of having a tiny human who’s completely dependent on your wife and you 24/7.
Been there, and yes it’s different from a cat or even a kitten. Mostly scarier.
For instance a cat’s fur and claws mean a plastic bag on their face won’t kill them. And they might get into trouble climbing all over the house at night but if they fall, or you drop them, they’ll land on their feet.
Try to breathe, and remember, the nights may last forever but the weeks fly by.
Appreciate the intensity of your love, but don’t begrudge your wife’s brother’s love for his cats.
The time will come when your kid becomes an adult and you can relax a little bit. And unless you really fucked it up, you’ll still be their parents, bound for life by love.
Your wife’s brother, who is just trying (failing but trying) to relate, will at some point be grieving the death of those cats, and I hope you’ll do a better job of understanding his feelings than he is of yours.
Jesus Christ you seem quite miserable. I’m not sure what you’re going through, but I genuinely hope it gets better for you, and that you’re able to find some peace soon.
This sounds like a conversation you should be having with your brother-in-law.
I am fully aware that my cats require far fewer resources than my stepsons, but that doesn’t prevent me from counting them as a valuable part of the family unit.
Also, we adopted all of our cats as very young kittens.
I’m totally okay with counting them as part of the family as stated in my first comment. I had cats myself from 9 to 23. Thinking of getting cats again in the future. It’s strictly the parent label that irks me the wrong way.
Is there a right way to be irked?
Why does that specific label bother you? What defines “acceptable” parenthood to you?
They have “real kids” so they’re special now.
why do you care? genuine question. ask it of yourself and mull over what the answer says about you. if you can’t come up with one, i recommend talking to a professional.
I would define being a parent as either having adopted a human being or having conceived a human being. Why do I care? I think words should have a useful meaning. If we broaden it to anyone who has a pet then we would require a new word for those that have a human child because in some cases that distinction is important because it is truly fundamentally different in several ways. If someone organized a local meetup group for new parents it should be understood that people who have recently adopted a cat would not be welcome. If the word parent is broadened in this way what would we then have to call that group, a “new human parent group”?
I can ask you: what are you missing in the term “cat owner” that you feel you need to use “cat parent” instead?
No one here is using the word parent alone. In the top post they specifically say cat parent. Do you really think that will confuse people? I think you are angry due to personal reasons and are taking it out with people that used the word in a pretty clear way.
No one is broadening anything. People don’t say “I have two kids” and then show you cats, they say “I have two cats, they are my lovely kids!”. It’s not confusing.
If you are annoyed that your family members compare your kid with their cat, as another user told you that’s a conversation between you and them, that isn’t happening here, there’s no need to introduce drama where there’s none.
While I do recognize your resemblance to a feline blossom, that is not reason enough for you to be on this community.
Truth.
