I can’t easily tell whether people want me to contact them, and often they don’t. I’ve been told by multiple people that they’d rather I didn’t and to leave it up to them, although I suppose I self selected into talking to those kinds of people by being very non-proactive. If there’s any ambiguity it’s basically impossible for me, but it becomes possible though still difficult if I’m actually asked to do so (indirect but still clear asks work too).
It seems like it could be kind of awkward, but it should still be more normalized to outright let friends know that you would appreciate and be ok with them taking more initiative with you, because otherwise they might not know.
I can’t easily tell whether people want me to contact them, and often they don’t. I’ve been told by multiple people that they’d rather I didn’t and to leave it up to them, although I suppose I self selected into talking to those kinds of people by being very non-proactive. If there’s any ambiguity it’s basically impossible for me, but it becomes possible though still difficult if I’m actually asked to do so (indirect but still clear asks work too).
It seems like it could be kind of awkward, but it should still be more normalized to outright let friends know that you would appreciate and be ok with them taking more initiative with you, because otherwise they might not know.