I had a similar experience with hinge after a 7-year long relationship fell apart. The most vapid, basic profiles devoid of any individual personality. I think the way hinge does their profiles leads to that. I eventually gave up and instead of trying a different app, i just realized that I like being single.
Instead of spending my time swiping on basic bitches, I took up painting, hiking, got back into practicing my instruments again and joined the local symphony and a celtic fiddle group, became more active in niche online spaces and made a ton of friends there, etc.
At this point I honeslty can’t even imagine inviting a woman into my life and being beholden to her whims and expectations 🤷🏼♂️
There are women who aren’t like that, and who would genuinely just be a cool person to have nearby, it’s just 99% of the women using dating apps are cardboard personified for some reason…
They are legitimately vapid and basic people with no personality. Unless you think following trends on social media is a personality, then you might really like hanging out with them!
I can’t tell you how many first dates I have been on where the lady thought I was mentally ill for having interest and hobbies outside of restaurants and travel. I went on one two weeks ago even where I said I had a grad degree and like studying languages as a hobby and she asked me if I was ‘autistic or something’. Then after I told her I don’t drink much anymore she just gave up on me entirely… lol
While I’ve certainly been guilty of going on long shot dates, I feel like your process should filter out most people with that level of incompatibility.
I’m sure a lot of people picked up on my nerdery from my profile or initial messages and passed, and that’s probably the right choice.
Though I do remember one bad date, we were talking about rom-coms and I mentioned dragon age inquisition and how I liked some of the romance plots in kt. She said something like she “thinks I live too much in those games”. Disaster averted, and now I have a fun story.
I had a similar experience with hinge after a 7-year long relationship fell apart. The most vapid, basic profiles devoid of any individual personality. I think the way hinge does their profiles leads to that. I eventually gave up and instead of trying a different app, i just realized that I like being single.
Instead of spending my time swiping on basic bitches, I took up painting, hiking, got back into practicing my instruments again and joined the local symphony and a celtic fiddle group, became more active in niche online spaces and made a ton of friends there, etc.
At this point I honeslty can’t even imagine inviting a woman into my life and being beholden to her whims and expectations 🤷🏼♂️
There are women who aren’t like that, and who would genuinely just be a cool person to have nearby, it’s just 99% of the women using dating apps are cardboard personified for some reason…
You’re wrong. I met many of those ladies.
They are legitimately vapid and basic people with no personality. Unless you think following trends on social media is a personality, then you might really like hanging out with them!
Yeah. This unfortunately, they are literally normies
I can’t tell you how many first dates I have been on where the lady thought I was mentally ill for having interest and hobbies outside of restaurants and travel. I went on one two weeks ago even where I said I had a grad degree and like studying languages as a hobby and she asked me if I was ‘autistic or something’. Then after I told her I don’t drink much anymore she just gave up on me entirely… lol
While I’ve certainly been guilty of going on long shot dates, I feel like your process should filter out most people with that level of incompatibility.
I’m sure a lot of people picked up on my nerdery from my profile or initial messages and passed, and that’s probably the right choice.
Though I do remember one bad date, we were talking about rom-coms and I mentioned dragon age inquisition and how I liked some of the romance plots in kt. She said something like she “thinks I live too much in those games”. Disaster averted, and now I have a fun story.
No being invested in things I am not also invested in!