Then you get to 45 and think “fuck this is too much time, I’m done. When does it end?”
I’m in this picture and I don’t like it. There is so much in the world to do, it is not possible to do it all…
I used to be that way at that age. I used to take delight in smelling fresh coffee grounds in the morning while making my coffee, and telling myself “Enjoy it while you can, because you never know when it’ll be the last time.”
Living like that was stressful. I’m in my late 30’s now. It eventually goes away and you just learn to enjoy the life you’ve got without putting the pressure of “… this goes away at some point,” weighing down on you all the time.
It’s forever on my mind. The fear and hopelessness is sometimes paralyzing.
Reddit would have those “Am I too late to change careers. I’m 26yo” posts for like a year straight.
I ran out of time of doing some physical intensive activities before my back decided that it wants to do an early retirement.
If your in your 20s you should be stressing like crazy because time goes so quick and once you hit 30 its over if you dont have a wife, house, kids and a good job - 29 year old who will be dead next year from no house no wife syndrome
Take your incel crap elsewhere
I dont doubt it is incel crap. But idk, in isolation it seems to me like it is making fun of the stressing about running out of time. Which, idk, feels pro-mental health and enjoying life to me.
Also, I haven’t seen anyone break down about this myself - but it is definitely something on some of my female friends’ minds. If they want kids, they have a window. You can argue about exactly what it is… but it exists. And they want a runway. They want to find a guy who has his shit together and who has the same goals and values and who is enjoyable to be around, and that can be difficult in the first place. And then they need to date him for a few years until they feel like they are ready to commit. Then they get married, and need to be in a good place financially in order to raise a kid “right”. And if they date a guy for a few years and it doesn’t work out, then their timeline starts over. Which, while I am not female nor do I have the goal of having kids, does sound like a stressful situation.
My wife is five years older than me. We met when I was 22. I really thought in the beginning “should I really date a 27 year old? That is so old!”
Now we love about that.
Edit: I decided to keep my typo.
She’s not a typo, she’s a person!
if you met today everyone would be telling you how immoral and wrong it is and how she abused you if she was older than you.
people are weirdly paranoid about age gaps in relationships these days. it’s totally bizarre. social media cooking all of their brains and turning harmless stuff into paranoid delusions of exploitation and abuse.
That is true, it does happen quite often - especially in reddit; Lemmy does have its share of people who like to turn normalcy into paranoia but at least isnt fully succumbed to the whole ‘logic’.
It is bizarre, but the constant indoctrination is to blame here.
Divide by 2 and add 7. Checks out
Yep, an human interaction simplified into a mathematical “rule” originating from the 1900 for finding a perfect maid - not really the most reliable thing, dont you think.
There is no need for a pseudo equation to realise that this relationship is fine.
Jfc, its a joke. Lemmy is getting as insufferable as reddit. “ACKshualllyyyyy”
Just didn’t realise it was a joke, sorry.
he wasn’t 15, she wasn’t 40
huh, time for what?
people have in in their heads they have to achieve certain things by 30 or they will never happen or you have ‘failed’ at life and are a ‘loser’.
career, house, marriage, kids, etc.
despite the fact, realistically, most of those things are now only achievable by the time you are 40, due to economic reality, and more and more folks will never achieve them also due to that reality. the mentality however, persists, especially among those who are under 30 that 30 is when you ‘become adult’ and have all the ‘adult’ things.
only 1/3 of people own a home by 30 today, and I’d guess a huge chunk of those folks inherited that home rather than purchased on their own income. every young home owner i ever met had their home mostly or completely paid or by their parents. it’s common for 20 year college kids in my city to own homes, because their folks buy them for them while they attend university. and my only family is thinking of doing that for their kids.
Its compounded for me by the fact that everything I had or was interested in was 20 years old when I was young, plus I lived in the same neighborhood of courage the cowardly dog. So now, I feel like I’m about 80 and everything truly is over because tech sucks and all my favorite musicians are dead 😆
I’m almost 40, and I only know one person who bought their house without direct and significant help from their parents. And that person only managed because they married an older doctor who could afford to buy a foreclosure when prices crashed in '08.
Nice meme but pls croppp
spoiler
It’s not. There’s plenty of time, chill and enjoy the ride.
Why is this a screenshot though?
Because OP doesn’t use Summit which gives you the option of editing images before upload.
Why would you need to edit? Just save the original photo.
“Women only worry about getting married, Men only worry once they get married” - George Washington (Maybe)
