Why do people seem unable to comprehend just enjoying being around friends?
Drinking, in particular, is a proven way to relieve anxiety around strangers. So, when you’re at a party with people you don’t know, and you don’t want to feel nervous about it, you drink a beer or do a shot or whatever. Being in a crowded room, talking to people you don’t know, maybe even singing and dancing with them all come more easily after that. Liquor is often described as a “social lubricant” for this reason.
Harder drugs can be even more potent.
The sex kinda follows logically from there. Especially when it’s a room full of young, good looking, horny people.
Except we’re not talking about meeting strangers, we’re talking about spending time with friends.
Have you never been to a house party before? Friends and friends of friends and dates of friends of friends and occasionally neighbors who just wander in off the street.
not being able to enjoy being around them while sober
Imagine being 16 and going to a party, excited to try beer for the first time, and getting lectured like you’re a 40 year old alcoholic.
Drinking, in particular, is a proven way to relieve anxiety around strangers. So, when you’re at a party with people you don’t know, and you don’t want to feel nervous about it, you drink a beer or do a shot or whatever. Being in a crowded room, talking to people you don’t know, maybe even singing and dancing with them all come more easily after that. Liquor is often described as a “social lubricant” for this reason.
Harder drugs can be even more potent.
The sex kinda follows logically from there. Especially when it’s a room full of young, good looking, horny people.
Except we’re not talking about meeting strangers, we’re talking about spending time with friends.
And while it can be fun to drink with friends, not being able to enjoy being around them while sober points to a lot of different problems.
Have you never been to a house party before? Friends and friends of friends and dates of friends of friends and occasionally neighbors who just wander in off the street.
Imagine being 16 and going to a party, excited to try beer for the first time, and getting lectured like you’re a 40 year old alcoholic.