My family are like the very last people I need to come out to, and then I’ll be done with my social transition. I’ve talked about how afraid I am to come out to them so often in comments here that you all probably already know that they’re conservative Catholics.
I am so over hiding myself from them, I’m just ready for it to be over, and even if they respond poorly, at least then it’s something real and not just fear of the uncertainty
I don’t think I can do it in person though. It would be too uncomfortable, there would be too many people (I have a lot of siblings), and I don’t think I’d even be able to get the words out. But I still feel weirdly obligated, like I owe them the respect of coming out in person?
Please please tell me it’s okay to send them an email instead
I’m not queer, just an ally with a trans son, but there aren’t any rules here. Yes, it’s often considered a courtesy to discuss important, relationship-relevant issues (like a breakup) face-to-face, but there are all sorts of reasons why some people don’t. At the end of the day, this one is about you, not your family, and you should do what works best for yourself.