I already cook dinner every day and have to work full time. So this sounds like an improvement to me! The extra time would probably help add more to each meal though.
Wouldn’t take a multimillion job either. £100k would be more than we earn between the 2 of us currently.
I’m on a 3-month parental leave with my 10-month-old and I’m doing this already. It’s fucking great. My wife (who makes six figures) has been so equally happy with the temporary arrangement that she has floated the idea of me (in a few years) getting the fuck out of my labor job (that is slowly destroying my body one appendage at a time) and doing this all the time.
I’m not completely against the idea, but the stigma is a lot to overcome. I don’t want to be measured as worthless by everyone around me for being a stay-at-home trad dad, when I’ve spent my entire adult life working my ass off, managing teams, and wearing down my body.
But going for quiet walks every morning and trying my hand at writing fiction sure sounds attractive…
I don’t want to be measured as worthless by everyone around me
There’s your problem right there. You need to learn to not fucking care one fucking bit what ANYONE else fucking thinks about how you and your family decide to live. They can all go FUCK themselves, and you don’t have to worry about it even a little bit.
If your wife is cool with it, then create your own reality, rather than involuntarily play a role in someone else’s.
- Find a random company that no one has heard of (or make one up)
- Tell everyone you switched to a boring remote paper pusher job for health reasons
- Enjoy your dream life
OR
- Fuck everyone, who cares what they think
- Enjoy your dream life
Tbh it sounds like a nice filter. People who judge are ones I wouldn’t want to be around.
Honestly no. We have a multi million income, let’s hire an actual chef so we can get properly nourished as opposed to just some variation of Italian food each night.
she will run off into the sunset with your new italian chef
Then she pays me alimony?
I’d love to cook and clean for a loving woman.
Yes but If I’m to quit my job I’ll require something substantial in a no fault divorce.
That depends on three simple questions.
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Are you pro-tax (against the rich ( as in you) )?
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How much do you give to charities?
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Are you gluten intolerant?
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Every day? Even back when I could cook that would be a no. Because that’s not a relationship, that’s a job.
I’m fine with being a SAH h/d. Hell, if I were a dad in that situation it would be amazing to have the freedom to be there every day, at least until the teenage years hit and the kid/s would be branching out into the first stages of their own lives. Being a dad that is disabled was better than being a dad that couldn’t be at home because he was a wage slave. So being healthy and having that freedom too? Sign me up.
But the way the meme makes it out, that’s just a job. Might still be a good relationship, but once obligations at that scale start creeping in, relationships can crumble faster than people can patch them up.
That being said, I fucking loved cooking for my people. So I would still do it every chance I got in that situation. Just couldn’t let it be some kind of transactional shit.
A thousand times yes. My (m) partner (nonbinary) was, for years, in a disaster of a relationship where, among other issues, they felt trapped into cooking dinner every night. They had made a deal with their girlfriend that they would cook and she would clean up. She stopped cleaning up consistently. However, my partner is a stubborn person who has trouble ending their own side of a deal even if the other person breaks their part.
I have therefore resolved never, ever to ask them to cook, or even ask questions about what they’re having for dinner, to avoid this becoming a problem in our relationship.
However, they actually love cooking. We’re both autistic, and cooking is one of the things that calms their brain.
They offer me dinner almost every night. I’m eating good, nutritious food most of the time now. I’m losing weight (which I need to do).
I do offer to cook or order delivery if they are particularly exhausted, and I have made it quite clear that I’m happy to be asked to do so, since I never had that problem.
It’s working great. If our relationship goes bad, at least it won’t be for that reason. Doing well so far, almost a year in.
Yeah lol but I’m inviting every homeless person in town to dinner
a) her?
b) with that kind of cash, someone else can do the cooking; but I’ll definitely stay at home
