I don’t think being aware of the landscape of violence against women and femicide makes me “superior”…
… although I do find it very odd that saying I have trouble enjoying media that contains violence or suggestions of violence against women because of that awareness has gotten so many downvotes.
I can get it, speaking for myself I think a big part of the ‘ick’ to the comment comes from the environment of the fedi itself.
There seems to be an over-representation of people on here with a self-righteous, purity tested sort of mentality preaching to others how they should be shamed for not abiding by some rigid standard they would see as worthy. It wears thin after a while.
The ‘curse of’ bit has a feel of that, ‘you’re an unenlightened cur for finding it amusing’.
The balance as I see it is between ‘nobody should be upset about anythin so say whatever you want’ vs ‘you have to be forever careful of every word lest someone be upset’. Somewhere in there is a balance where people don’t have to be constantly on edge but aren’t acting like an unrestrained asshole.
I think it’s a curse because it would be easier to not notice, or say anything… Like the alt-right kind of looks fun in the same way being irresponsible and selfish is fun. That’s what it means for me, it’s a curse because these discussions aren’t fun and don’t win upvotes.
George Carlin: Sigmund Freud said “sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.” Oh yeah? Well sometimes it’s a big brown dick… with a fat, arrogant, white-collared, business-criminal a*****e sucking on the wet end of it!
The world can be full of subtext and extra meanings, but it’s high stress to always be on watch for it. 🙃
I don’t think being aware of the landscape of violence against women and femicide makes me “superior”…
… although I do find it very odd that saying I have trouble enjoying media that contains violence or suggestions of violence against women because of that awareness has gotten so many downvotes.
I just feel it’s a difficult topic to get right.
I can get it, speaking for myself I think a big part of the ‘ick’ to the comment comes from the environment of the fedi itself.
There seems to be an over-representation of people on here with a self-righteous, purity tested sort of mentality preaching to others how they should be shamed for not abiding by some rigid standard they would see as worthy. It wears thin after a while.
The ‘curse of’ bit has a feel of that, ‘you’re an unenlightened cur for finding it amusing’.
The balance as I see it is between ‘nobody should be upset about anythin so say whatever you want’ vs ‘you have to be forever careful of every word lest someone be upset’. Somewhere in there is a balance where people don’t have to be constantly on edge but aren’t acting like an unrestrained asshole.
I think it’s a curse because it would be easier to not notice, or say anything… Like the alt-right kind of looks fun in the same way being irresponsible and selfish is fun. That’s what it means for me, it’s a curse because these discussions aren’t fun and don’t win upvotes.
The world can be full of subtext and extra meanings, but it’s high stress to always be on watch for it. 🙃