I try real hard to remind myself when people tell me their sob stories that somewhere out there is someone who would be flabbergasted at the bullshit being spewed in my face.
It’s extra fun when they are delusional enough to accidentally tell on themselves.
For example, if someone tells me unprompted that their nasty family members are falsely accusing them of something and cut off contact over it, I immediately believe whatever “false” accusations they claim to have against them.
I use this example because I literally had this conversation with a total stranger and he truly had no idea how bad he was making himself look.
It’s not all the time but if someone has sob story after sob story after drama after drama I start to think they’re just telling me stories about their victims.
That literally is my ex. Me and all her other exes were apparently violent and abusive, cheaters, bad with money and 100 other things. Like she literally tells her friends I was violent but also begs to get me back because her new boyfriend can’t hold down a job and she doesn’t want to go back to work either.
I mean just by letting her manipulate me into debt and purchases, I took a financial hit that would make most people look up the LD50 of whatever they find in their medicine cabinet, but I’ll survive. As for the rest of the abuse, I literally don’t give a fuck anymore. It’s over and since all the other people in my life are genuinely awesome, I have plenty of support.
As someone who fell prey to someone that way, yep. I try not to be callous, but at a certain point it goes from “you’re part of the problem” and into “you’re incapable of coping with a boring normal situation and so you just cause problems to deal with it”
People who feel the need to feed drama in their life feel like they don’t matter. They create problems to feel like something actually matters in their life, that they matter, that their problems matter, and they create these problems themselves to involve others to get that social validation of themselves as being people who matter. It’s basically narcissism. They feel like they don’t get as much attention as they think they deserve, so they create problems for everyone so that they have to pay attention.
I try real hard to remind myself when people tell me their sob stories that somewhere out there is someone who would be flabbergasted at the bullshit being spewed in my face.
It’s extra fun when they are delusional enough to accidentally tell on themselves.
For example, if someone tells me unprompted that their nasty family members are falsely accusing them of something and cut off contact over it, I immediately believe whatever “false” accusations they claim to have against them.
I use this example because I literally had this conversation with a total stranger and he truly had no idea how bad he was making himself look.
It’s not all the time but if someone has sob story after sob story after drama after drama I start to think they’re just telling me stories about their victims.
“If it smells like shit everywhere you go, check your shoe” sums it up pretty nice
If you run into an asshole in the morning, you just ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you’re probably the asshole.
That stat only checks out if there’s less than 50% assholes around you all day, which is a tenuous proposition at best.
That literally is my ex. Me and all her other exes were apparently violent and abusive, cheaters, bad with money and 100 other things. Like she literally tells her friends I was violent but also begs to get me back because her new boyfriend can’t hold down a job and she doesn’t want to go back to work either.
Everything is protection with her.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
I mean just by letting her manipulate me into debt and purchases, I took a financial hit that would make most people look up the LD50 of whatever they find in their medicine cabinet, but I’ll survive. As for the rest of the abuse, I literally don’t give a fuck anymore. It’s over and since all the other people in my life are genuinely awesome, I have plenty of support.
Eyy big up. 👊
As someone who fell prey to someone that way, yep. I try not to be callous, but at a certain point it goes from “you’re part of the problem” and into “you’re incapable of coping with a boring normal situation and so you just cause problems to deal with it”
People who feel the need to feed drama in their life feel like they don’t matter. They create problems to feel like something actually matters in their life, that they matter, that their problems matter, and they create these problems themselves to involve others to get that social validation of themselves as being people who matter. It’s basically narcissism. They feel like they don’t get as much attention as they think they deserve, so they create problems for everyone so that they have to pay attention.