Yeah it’s really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It’s so beautiful when someone can’t shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn’t clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.
You literally described a lot of what my partner deals with every day. We’ve been married for over 8 years and they still feel uncertainty that I will leave them, or they’ll go weeks without showering because that requires too many spoons and they’re insomniac and haven’t slept in 5 days and just eating a teacup amount of food when I make dinner for us.
Doesn’t mean I don’t love them any less. Can it be frustrating? Of course. Can it be annoying? Of course. But I married this person because I love the person, disabilities and all.
It’s not fetishizing anything. Their disabilities make them 1 of 1. I married an incredibly unique individual and I love them wholeheartedly. And all the positives I get out of the relationship greatly outweigh the negative quirks.
Your comment made it sound like you love them thanks to their disabilities, rather than because of who they are which includes their disabilities. That the disability positively affects your rating of them rather than it being an integral part of them when they are always good enough. I’m glad that isn’t the case, though I stand by my reaction being appropriate to what you wrote.
I personally would consider psychological disorders or mental illnesses to be completely different to a personality disorder, but that’s not a common stance to have. Regardless, i hear you.
It’s a rather silly comment. Experts get to decide how these things are defined. It would be like me saying “Personally, I consider a tree to be a type of rock, but I realize that isn’t a common stance to have.”
Sure, but perhaps if you didn’t just search and then copypaste a link that agreed with you, purely in an attempt at being an argumentative ass, you would see that many experts are in disagreement about the categorization of mental illnesses.
It’s almost like i knew this when i made my original comment… 🤔
Yeah it’s really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It’s so beautiful when someone can’t shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn’t clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.
Yes, I dated somebody who had cluster B (antisocial, borderline, histrionic, narcissistic) which made her abusive. It was not hot and it was not cute, and it ruined our relationship (which was sad).
No, I prefer personality, you having personality disorder just makes you even better even hotter and more beautiful.
Yeah it’s really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It’s so beautiful when someone can’t shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn’t clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.
Please don’t fetishize mental disability.
You literally described a lot of what my partner deals with every day. We’ve been married for over 8 years and they still feel uncertainty that I will leave them, or they’ll go weeks without showering because that requires too many spoons and they’re insomniac and haven’t slept in 5 days and just eating a teacup amount of food when I make dinner for us.
Doesn’t mean I don’t love them any less. Can it be frustrating? Of course. Can it be annoying? Of course. But I married this person because I love the person, disabilities and all.
It’s not fetishizing anything. Their disabilities make them 1 of 1. I married an incredibly unique individual and I love them wholeheartedly. And all the positives I get out of the relationship greatly outweigh the negative quirks.
That’s nice. I’m happy for you both.
Your comment made it sound like you love them thanks to their disabilities, rather than because of who they are which includes their disabilities. That the disability positively affects your rating of them rather than it being an integral part of them when they are always good enough. I’m glad that isn’t the case, though I stand by my reaction being appropriate to what you wrote.
(edit: fixed misgendering)
My keyboard psychologist also says that person has some kind of codependency issues… but if they’re truly happy, all’s good and I wish them well.
Love how you not only assumed the reasons I love my partner but also misgendered them at the same time.
Maybe you should sit down and think about how you view others before judging them.
Sorry for the misgendering, I don’t know how I messed that up.
I thought I was paraphrasing what you said. So if you still have the patience to help me out, could you explain how the things I said were wrong?
I can fix her.
umm this is still a Wendy’s, can i take your order?
I personally would consider psychological disorders or mental illnesses to be completely different to a personality disorder, but that’s not a common stance to have. Regardless, i hear you.
This is what a personality disorder is. It includes stuff like paranoia, schizophrenia, depression, and bipolar disorder.
Read my comment again.
It’s a rather silly comment. Experts get to decide how these things are defined. It would be like me saying “Personally, I consider a tree to be a type of rock, but I realize that isn’t a common stance to have.”
Sure, but perhaps if you didn’t just search and then copypaste a link that agreed with you, purely in an attempt at being an argumentative ass, you would see that many experts are in disagreement about the categorization of mental illnesses.
It’s almost like i knew this when i made my original comment… 🤔
Also: petrified wood. LOL
Don’t kink shame them /s
You’ll grow out of it
Only when my age overflows
Yeah it’s really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It’s so beautiful when someone can’t shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn’t clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.
Please don’t fetishize mental disability.
Yes, I dated somebody who had cluster B (antisocial, borderline, histrionic, narcissistic) which made her abusive. It was not hot and it was not cute, and it ruined our relationship (which was sad).