OK, by now we get that you’re rampantly horny, but besides that, what’s your damage? Just the standard ADHD/autism, or borderline/dissociative or something extra spicy?
So real
It’s almost warm enough for dresses again 😎
I used to have this before she moved in with me.
Do people really want the whole “be used as a sex toy any time” thing? I do not understand that at all, tbh. I’m not judging y’all or whatever, it’s just a very confusing concept to me. But sex is also a very complicated thing for me because of some shit I went through in my last relationship.
Yes, not at all uncommon in the BDSM community. Neither are 24/7 kink relationships. However, reality is different from fantasy and there is a fair amount of nuance in how this works in the context of a LTR and not a fun weekend.
Yeah, some people are into that. Terms called free-use. Sometimes its just an overly desire to be available to your significant other but there are many different ways one arrives at such affirmations
Can be wrong, but I suppose that here people mean that they are willing to have intercourse without preparations at any time they can if, of course, nothing prevents it(illness, urgent work, emergency, etc.). No need to have each tome a romantic date or a special occasion.
I had this for a couple of years. It’s all it’s cracked up to be. Really wish she hadn’t gone crazy, shaved her head, and moved to Bali.
Classic
The whole “sex object” complaint never made sense to me tbh. Like I’ve always wanted “sex object” to be a part of my identity. It’s great for non-sexual stuff to be appreciated, but I’d want my partner to just be horny for me at least for a portion of the time.
The whole “sex object” complaint never made sense to me tbh.
The key word here is object. When people complain about sexual objectification, most often they are complaining about people being treated as if they were sexual objects devoid of agency. There is nothing wrong with sex.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think the problem is more about people other than your partner thinking like that.
It’s a problem when it’s all that your partner cares about. Sex is great, but the vast majority of the time you spend with your SO will not involve fucking. That other 90% is important too.
I don’t know if it’s puritanical or what, but I think some people misunderstand sexual objectification to be a rejection of all sexual displays entirely. Like as an idiom, even.
On the idiom point, it’s entirely possible to objectify people in other ways, but I never really see anyone talk about them.
Being treated only as a font of knowledge, a hard worker, a reliable friend (when the friendship is otherwise not rewarding), having a lot of tools, etc, is kind of crappy. I at least get pleasure from sex. Honestly, if I had my druthers of how folks reduce me, I wouldn’t hate being valued for being good in bed.
I wonder if the friend with the truck ever feels like that.
Hm, they could. I don’t think that objectification is truly always a bad thing. It obviously sucks when people use you, but being ‘the friend with …’ can also be an excuse to see people more often. Kind of like how the social function of a lot of holidays is just to bring distant people together again.
Sexual objectification is of particular importance because it has ties to the cultural perception of women, rape culture, etc., but it’s also fine to just think your wife who you admire for her strong perserverance and creativity also has titties that are fire.
Some common ones: worker, consumer, commuter, fan, voter, reader, viewer, subscriber…
Edit: sex worker is an interesting one, conceptually. Plenty of people talk about how “wrong” and “coercive” it can be (and they can be right!), but for some reason like to skip over the whole incentive coming from the exact same place as any other work done to make a living. They don’t do sexual things for money because people want them to, they do it because they need to pay bills.
On your edit… yes, and the problem there is that should be considered coercive for all work. We shouldn’t work for money. We should work because the work has value to the population. A lot of work is the opposite, and yet people do it because they have to pay the bills. Working in scam call centers is an extreme example. There are people who go to sex clubs and such where they have sex with semi strangers and what not. There would probably be a lot more if it wasn’t considered taboo. So the “industry” as it is would not go away, it would change if paying the bills wasn’t the driver.
I like being a sentient dildo.
Same, homie. Same.
Pretty much my current relationship. (I’m not the one “being used” though.)
Reality isn’t always as sexy though: Your moods won’t always be in sync and your libidos won’t always match. That’s just human. But those times it all matches are just magic.
And for the other times: Open communication, toys and setting and respecting clear boundaries go a long way.
I think I would always be down to suck some gock, even if I’m not really in the mood myself. I love making the girlies happy.
Based and consent pilled
So true. I started taking SSRI (anti depressants) and have very little sex drive now. The only thing that seems to help is weed right now.
Every new relationship adds new rules, new things to watch out for, and a subsequent limiting of the possible dating pool.
By now I know I am looking for something that statistically does not exist.
knowing who posted this before even checking the username…
Lemmy stands on the shoulders of like 5 people with some uhhh interesting social media habits
if adora and jessica stop posting, blahaj.zone might as well close.
yes but thats kinda why it is so compfy around here
same :3
How about one partner for each?
Not everyone has that much bandwidth but you go on, wild thing.
I once had three partners and all three were both. It was exhausting. Now I’m back down to two and this is a good level.
Where love?
What is love?
Baby don’t hurt me
