• ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net
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    13 hours ago

    attack people and tell them not to have kids.

    People actually do that? That has to be like to most insensitive behavior I have ever heard about. Telling someone they are not fit to reproduce must be either a direct insult or a sign of mental illness.

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          Why an insult? This may be simply a factual assessment of someone’s abilities.

          If someone tells me I am unable to participate in London Marathon, it is not an insult, just a fact.

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            Unable is a different thing than shouldn’t. Unable is clear, shouldn’t implies that you’re defective in a way that should not be passed to next generation. This can also be factually true in case of some terrible, hereditary disease but I doubt it’s what we’re talking about.

            Also, discussing fertility with other people is becoming thing of the past. It’s not polite to ask people if and when will they have children. It’s even less polite to suggest them one way or another.

    • zzffyfajzkzhnsweqm@sh.itjust.works
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      13 hours ago

      Directly telling them is common enough.

      But if we count indirectly telling it is erverywhere. It is brought up in conversations and it is all over social media mostly in a form how they think how immoral is to have kids.

      Most probably because some people think they have to explain and appologise for not having kids. And they do that in a form of attacking how having kids is bad and morally wrong. It also does not help that social media is boosting this types of posts because they draw attention.

      It might just be me. But I see probably a post like that every day. I have never in my life hear someone explaining how having kids is good or directly say that I should have kids.

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        12 hours ago

        If you mean it as expressing their opinion that people in general should not have kids than yes, I guess that’s common enough. Not sure if I would call that attacking people. Directly telling someone they personally should not have kids? That definitely doesn’t sound like it’s common. But I don’t know, maybe I’m just not surrounded by toxic assholes.

        No one hearing that people should have kids is total bullshit. You see articles about low birth rates every day. People talk about what should be done so that people have more kids all the time. Half of the population believe that we need more kids and talk constantly how it’s needed to counter immigration and save our retirements. Not to mention people praising being a parent and having kids in general. If you never heard this you’re simply in a bubble.