i’m not sure why “social cues” and “authority” would have much to do with each other, it’s not like anarchists are socially inept, in fact being socially adept is kinda a core part of functional anarchy.
I dislike arbitrary things as well, but thanks to the magic of understanding how to be social i can just talk to people about it and explain why i think arbitraryness sucks ass, and they then treat me nicely and feel bad about my struggles since i’m so easy to deal with.
And it’s not like i’m some 10 charisma bard, simply being chill and not actively unpleasant gets you 80% of the way. Even if you never make eye contact you’ll still be seen as pretty normal if you speak normally and follow basic conversational etiquette.
A common issue autistic people have is with “implied authority”, which has the same main issue as social cues. Doing things because “that’s how its always been”. A manager who has a job due to nepotism and a common courtesy that is just a white lie are going to cause the same kind of rage in an autist. If it can’t be explained in a way that is logical and fair, they will not have any patience for it.
I feel like you’re talking about a completely different thing, though. You can be no-nonsense but still nice to interact with, it’s something i’ve gotten hugely better at in just the past like 7 years.
Like in the example of someone who got their job due to nepotism i’d just bring that up to people i trust and report it to wherever such things are reported, your union representative if nothing else. I wouldn’t say “you’re a nepo hire and i don’t like that” to their face because that would be terrifying to deal with, but i wouldn’t be silent about it either.
If your response would instead be to rage about it to their face, then; like others have said, i think that goes beyond just autism and into oppositional disorder or whatever.
i’m not sure why “social cues” and “authority” would have much to do with each other, it’s not like anarchists are socially inept, in fact being socially adept is kinda a core part of functional anarchy.
I dislike arbitrary things as well, but thanks to the magic of understanding how to be social i can just talk to people about it and explain why i think arbitraryness sucks ass, and they then treat me nicely and feel bad about my struggles since i’m so easy to deal with.
And it’s not like i’m some 10 charisma bard, simply being chill and not actively unpleasant gets you 80% of the way. Even if you never make eye contact you’ll still be seen as pretty normal if you speak normally and follow basic conversational etiquette.
A common issue autistic people have is with “implied authority”, which has the same main issue as social cues. Doing things because “that’s how its always been”. A manager who has a job due to nepotism and a common courtesy that is just a white lie are going to cause the same kind of rage in an autist. If it can’t be explained in a way that is logical and fair, they will not have any patience for it.
This meme is not about anarchists.
I feel like you’re talking about a completely different thing, though. You can be no-nonsense but still nice to interact with, it’s something i’ve gotten hugely better at in just the past like 7 years.
Like in the example of someone who got their job due to nepotism i’d just bring that up to people i trust and report it to wherever such things are reported, your union representative if nothing else. I wouldn’t say “you’re a nepo hire and i don’t like that” to their face because that would be terrifying to deal with, but i wouldn’t be silent about it either.
If your response would instead be to rage about it to their face, then; like others have said, i think that goes beyond just autism and into oppositional disorder or whatever.