• calcopiritus@lemmy.world
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    15 hours ago

    He wasn’t listening to the conversation for 3 hours. He was seated there for 3 hours, and then he overheard a part of a conversation.

    Overhearing is not the same as actively listening. Talking in public is public. They are at a bar, which is an extremely social place, it is normal for strangers to join conversations.

    And what place and context is more appropriate than a bar for asking someone out? It has been the de facto place exactly for that purpose for millenia.

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      8 hours ago

      The phrasing heavily implies that they worked up their nerve over the course of three hours and that this was a recurring conversation throughout that time. And I’m not assuming they were attentively listening; what’s problematic is that they leveraged (unsuccessfully) what they overheard to swoop in like a creepy vulture and try to pick this woman up (under the guise of doing her a favor) while she was just trying to have a nice time with her friends.

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        14 hours ago

        Idk why you are choosing to imagine anon like that. But that is a pretty normal and socially acceptable behaviour in a bar

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          Because it’s written on 4chan and all men are dangerous and need to be shamed into not approaching anyone. You’re only allowed to approach someone if you’re incredibly attractive and socially perfectly calibrated.