I do wonder if the “strsngers online” part didn’t help.
You get, I dunno, call them the most popular/attractive women, who attract random compliments. Constantly getting strangers telling them “you’re pretty.” Coupoe with the actual weirdos sending them DMs like “Show me your feet,” and that maked the woman bitter and jaded so even basic compliments start to get (justifiably) negative back, even if its “You’re pretty” or even lesser comments (say, “I like your art”).
Then those guys start to equate this behavior to every woman, including real life. Especially as it also starts to morph a bit on the women’s side into “Dudes are all creeps.”
And I am not trying to blame either men nor women here, just that it becomes its own toxic snowball that results in incels.
This also isn’t helped by the 90-2000s epidemic of Movie and TV stereotypes in teen movies. Only hot jocks and cheerleaders are acceptable and nerds are ugly and terrible people.
Also the theme from the time that you’d get the girl by harassing her until she caved.
But I’m not in a position to talk. I had to harass my wife a bit because she’s just like me and forgets to respond to messages. But it was more like, “it’s been a few days since she responded. I’ll try once more and if I don’t get an answer, I’ll move on.”
Showing genuine interest and caring about another person may get you a partner, who’d have thought it ~
I do wonder if the “strsngers online” part didn’t help.
You get, I dunno, call them the most popular/attractive women, who attract random compliments. Constantly getting strangers telling them “you’re pretty.” Coupoe with the actual weirdos sending them DMs like “Show me your feet,” and that maked the woman bitter and jaded so even basic compliments start to get (justifiably) negative back, even if its “You’re pretty” or even lesser comments (say, “I like your art”).
Then those guys start to equate this behavior to every woman, including real life. Especially as it also starts to morph a bit on the women’s side into “Dudes are all creeps.”
And I am not trying to blame either men nor women here, just that it becomes its own toxic snowball that results in incels.
This also isn’t helped by the 90-2000s epidemic of Movie and TV stereotypes in teen movies. Only hot jocks and cheerleaders are acceptable and nerds are ugly and terrible people.
Also the theme from the time that you’d get the girl by harassing her until she caved.
But I’m not in a position to talk. I had to harass my wife a bit because she’s just like me and forgets to respond to messages. But it was more like, “it’s been a few days since she responded. I’ll try once more and if I don’t get an answer, I’ll move on.”
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