I’m not convinced that there’s anywhere near as many straight people as straight people pretend there are. It’s gotta be closer to like fifty-fifty split between straight and bi/pan/ace/and so on.
I struggle to believe that anyone is 100.00% straight or gay. Like, really? You’re straight, sure… But there’s not one person? One situation? One perfect storm of circumstances where you’d try swinging the other way just a little bit?
Sexuality exists on a spectrum, imo.
There are a few people who are totally straight, a few who are totally gay, but the vast majority fall somewhere in the middle. I do not feel that sexuality is a binary for most people. Of course, I could be completely wrong. I’m no scientist.
Labels are just succinct words/phrases that try to give people some approximate idea of where we fall on a handful of vast spectrums. They’re not meant to be 100% accurate.
I’m probably pansexual, but I tell people I’m bi because that’s a word most people are familiar with. And even then I’m like 80-90% into women. So I don’t really fit neatly into the bisexual box, but that label conveys enough relevant information.
I’m not even convinced we really managed to universally agree to uniform definition of what straight actually is. As long as that’s the case people, who want to be "normal“, will just stretch and twist the definitions to fit in, if they can fit in that way.
That’s a problem with everything though. No matter what definition for something you come up with, even if most of population agrees with it, you’d have aggresively vocal minority that will try and push it other way to conform it to their perception/goals etc.
Straight means that, for example, as a man you are sexually attracted only to women. Already met people who dragged it into the “feminine people” camp instead and people who dragged it into “feminine women” camp. I tend on the other hand to stick into the tried and tested too much so I find both irritating xD
I more had “only/exclusively” vs “mostly/usually” in mind. But yes. There is also the question of whether its about gender or sex; homo-hetero being viewed as “same-opposite” vs “same-different”; what you wanna do with them … sex, relationship or both. Some think samesex intercourse is fine as long as you don’t want a relationship . And what even does attraction mean.
I see it as different things, you can fall for one gender, you can feel sexual attractive for another but most of the time do they sync. So that made also sense why some had crushes on the gender they wouldn’t be together with.
It all clicked when I got to know a girl who could fall in love with men and women but couldn’t enjoy having sex with guys even tho she tried to really liked it with the guys she fell for. And that also made me understand what pan really was because I thought it was just bi with extra steps but when gender identity, gender romance and gender sexually was all different things then it all made sense.
I’m not convinced that there’s anywhere near as many straight people as straight people pretend there are. It’s gotta be closer to like fifty-fifty split between straight and bi/pan/ace/and so on.
I struggle to believe that anyone is 100.00% straight or gay. Like, really? You’re straight, sure… But there’s not one person? One situation? One perfect storm of circumstances where you’d try swinging the other way just a little bit?
100% gay here and so far it continues this way.
Trust me, it is very frustrating to be around people who you would gladly fuck your brains out, but your brain is like “eww”.
Sexuality exists on a spectrum, imo. There are a few people who are totally straight, a few who are totally gay, but the vast majority fall somewhere in the middle. I do not feel that sexuality is a binary for most people. Of course, I could be completely wrong. I’m no scientist.
Is that you, Robert California?
No, I’m his Mexican half brother, twice removed. I’m José Colorado. Nice to meet you!
I know everyone says it, but labels are pretty useless.
Even terms like “masculine” and “feminine” hold so much dumb baggage they’re both functionally useless.
I know guys who want to be subservient to pretty girls, and girls who want stocky girls to dominate them.
Sexuality doesn’t fit neatly into boxes, even in the best of circumstances - so much of it is contextual, and is pointless to attempt to pin down.
Labels are just succinct words/phrases that try to give people some approximate idea of where we fall on a handful of vast spectrums. They’re not meant to be 100% accurate.
I’m probably pansexual, but I tell people I’m bi because that’s a word most people are familiar with. And even then I’m like 80-90% into women. So I don’t really fit neatly into the bisexual box, but that label conveys enough relevant information.
I’m not even convinced we really managed to universally agree to uniform definition of what straight actually is. As long as that’s the case people, who want to be "normal“, will just stretch and twist the definitions to fit in, if they can fit in that way.
That’s a problem with everything though. No matter what definition for something you come up with, even if most of population agrees with it, you’d have aggresively vocal minority that will try and push it other way to conform it to their perception/goals etc.
Straight means that, for example, as a man you are sexually attracted only to women. Already met people who dragged it into the “feminine people” camp instead and people who dragged it into “feminine women” camp. I tend on the other hand to stick into the tried and tested too much so I find both irritating xD
I more had “only/exclusively” vs “mostly/usually” in mind. But yes. There is also the question of whether its about gender or sex; homo-hetero being viewed as “same-opposite” vs “same-different”; what you wanna do with them … sex, relationship or both. Some think samesex intercourse is fine as long as you don’t want a relationship . And what even does attraction mean.
I see it as different things, you can fall for one gender, you can feel sexual attractive for another but most of the time do they sync. So that made also sense why some had crushes on the gender they wouldn’t be together with.
It all clicked when I got to know a girl who could fall in love with men and women but couldn’t enjoy having sex with guys even tho she tried to really liked it with the guys she fell for. And that also made me understand what pan really was because I thought it was just bi with extra steps but when gender identity, gender romance and gender sexually was all different things then it all made sense.
Why’s that?