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    Demonstrates their point by raging-out unintelligibly. Never mentions gender. Commenters say its about hating women. Sure.

    Emotional Intelligence at a singular level amounts to taking the appropriate time to compose oneself, but at the same time, just because one shows emotion doesn’t mean they don’t have a point.

    I agree OP was likely rejected by someone, but I’ve seen gay men and lesbians use these phrases to try to manipulate their SO or counteract their SO’s bullshit, more often the “calm” one overtly attempting manipulation and gaslighting.

    Bringing gender or “misogyny” into it is laughably besides-the-point to me. I saw a meme page try to say the 90%-of-prisoners-are-men statistic means its men who are overly-emotional, like the people who say women are too emotional have a point re:emotions, and only got the “women” part wrong. My fellow bitches, the “calm” ones are not on your side.

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    This is bait but emotional intelligence is understanding your emotions, not the emotions having intelligence

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    “You can’t be emotional and intelligent at the same time” is a misogynistic dogwhistle, anon thinks women are less intelligent than men, and I suspect the whole rant is informed by anons misogyny

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        Jk Rowling doesn’t have the benefit of the doubt for that to work. Her works are dripping with status quo reinforcing shit and neither herself nor her characters are capable of growing past what they were born as.

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          Just to clear it up for people who apparently don’t realize it: I wasn’t actually discussing Rowling with the above comment.

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        It’s not bigoted to recognize the type of language and stereotypes that are used against marginalized people. If you’re a woman, you’ve almost certainly been called “too emotional” or “on her period” before as a means to dismiss you by people like this who think that emotions and rationality are incompatible with each other.

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    “Intelligence” isn’t about knowing a lot of stuff or even having experience. It’s about being able to use your knowledge and experience to solve problems. So, by that logic, emotional intelligence means a skill of solving problems pertaining to emotions.

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      I’d say emotional intelligence is understanding why you feel a certain way and not allowing the automatic reaction to those feelings to be the default reaction.

      Like if something makes you angry, instead of going crazy, you take a deep breath and address it calmly. It’s primarily emotional regulation.

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        I’ve also heard the term applied to understanding why other people feel a certain way and taking steps to mitigate negative emotional feedback. It’s not just being able to control your own emotions.

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    reflection is OFF THE FUCKING TABLE DIDN’T I SAY SO ALREADY I’M ENRAGED AT THE MERE THOUGHT OF THIS WHY WOULD ANYONE HURT THEMSELVES LIKE THIS BY LOOKING INSIDE I’M ANGRY HELP NO DON’T HELP AAAH. /s

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            Jupp, I stopped using 4chan when I learned a sizable amount of the people using it actually believed what was in what I perceived as the shitposts. Prior to that it was for me an outlet for the dumbest ideas I could think of

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              I heard that Epstein actually active tried influencing 4chan in a certain direction. I forget the details, but he was involved with that site and the culture and political views that was spread from there to the rest of the internet.

              Almost feels like tinfoil hat shit, but it’s supposedly there in some of the leaked files that Epstein had a lot to influence internet culture and politocal leanings early on. If true, then yikes.

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                Im sure it was just a conciendence thay /pol/ was created just a month after Epstein meet with moot in person.

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                  Yeah it was /pol/ that Epstein supposedly helped start. Fuck man. If I find the source I stumbled on, I’ll share it, but it’s like weeks to months ago that I saw it and was like “huh, that’s fucked”, but I didn’t think to bookmark it at the time.