• Because they wanted to try and make a point about something but it didn’t get the attention they wanted so now they’re back pedaling and trying to say there was no point or that nobody will listen to their point (despite being directly asked what the point was)

    Communication, hilariously, is not their strong suit it seems

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      I never said there wasn’t a point to my comment.

      I’m also not going to indulge in allowing y’all to dogpile me. My comment wasn’t misandrist.

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      My guess is not exactly the same; it’s that they’ve made the point they really mean many times, so by now they’re bored of typing it out. Maybe they in fact expect people to understand the point they intend even though they haven’t made it, based on people agreeing with them already, or having seen their posts already.

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        It was a conversation starter about the gendered language. I wasn’t accusing OP of anything nor demonizing them for it though.

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          I wasn’t accusing OP of anything

          I am. I didn’t read the title before popping into the post and only realized it after you posted it. I assumed it was generally about communication, but OP made the choice of not only gendering the conversation, but infantilizing the “strawgirl” in their head with it.

          It’s especially rich because if there a gender that struggles with communicating their needs and desires it’s overwhelmingly, empirically, men. Any projection of “mind reading” is likely because they lack the emotional intelligence to comprehend something that’s been told to them multiple times to the point of the partner going non-verbal when it happens again.

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          OK. For the record I couldn’t tell whether you were actually talking about gendered language or something I was missing. I do also think when you purposefully say very little, inevitably people will make assumptions about what you “really meant” whether that’s justified or not. Which I appreciate is annoying.

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            I wasn’t sure myself why the title was gendered the way it was in relation the image. I still haven’t figured out the connection there amongst all the accusations of misandry being thrown at me.

            Thanks.

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              If I had to guess (lots of guessing) it’s like supposed to be a light-hearted expression like “big girl pants”

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                  All the times I have heard it said, which is not that many, yes. It was said in a light-hearted and, dare I say, kind way :)

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                    The times it’s been said to me have been condescending and meant to shame.

                    For the record, telling a grown woman to “use her big girl words” or put on her “big girl pants” is incredibly rude.