“Love of my life”
A good first step is not using that for a person you barely talk to.
Don’t invest so heavily into people you’ve never asked out.
That took me way too long to figure out.
ew. this sounds like something narcissists say from the tate-brothers-manosphere when talking about their definitions of ‘worth’ when giving the reasons of icing out because no one is going to fuck them and therefore a waste of their time.
What the fuck are you talking about?
“Don’t sit around for months/years putting someone you don’t actually interact with on a pedestal and dreaming of some fantasy future together when you can’t even gather the courage to ask them for drinks” is not some manosphere bullshit.
That’s like the standard for a healthy approach to dating.
The pining part is HOW people get drawn into the manosphere. They put all their eggs in one basket, strike out because they’ve made it weird, and then decide it’s all women that are the problem, not their terrible approach.
That’s not the point. The point is not to get yourself so emotionally wrapped up in someone before you even know how they feel about you that it actually fucks you up when they don’t feel the same. That’s the kind of shit that sets all these dudes that fall into the manosphere off in the first place.
It ain’t like that, abusive and such. It’s more like, not investing enough to finish the
It didn’t take long for the manosphere to fall: our enemy was ruthless. Efficient.
But they weren’t nearly fast enough, for Aqivex@fedinsfw.app had already passed the torch.And because of them, we found 196@lemmy.blahaj.org
(idr I’m going by memory alone), unlocked its secrets, shattered our enemies’ resolve.Our victory — their victory — was so close, I wish lightnsfw@reddthat.com could have lived to see it.
But they belong to Lemmy.
Aqivex@fedinsfw.app’s body, Aqivex@fedinsfw.app’s comments — all banned and handed off to archive.org.
Everything.
… except their courage.
That, they gave to us.
And with it, we can rebuild.
Edit:
copy-pasted lightnsfw’s handle instead of the correct one for this hand-crafted copy-pasta, just kill me, end my self-imposed suffering
If they don’t love you, they aren’t the love of your life, just someone you were infatuated with.
Yep, 100%. A crush on a friend or acquaintance is not a “love of your life.” You could be completely convinced a person is right for you, but if they don’t want to be in a romantic relationship with you, you’re wrong.
Just once, I want someone to reassuringly place their arm on my shoulder, look me comfortingly in the eyes, and say “we’ll bang, ok?”
Who better than
All of my friends say I should move on
She’s just another girl
Don’t let her stick it to your heart so hard
And all of my friends say it wasn’t meant to be
And it’s a great big world
She’s just another girl
I could be reeling 'em in left and right
Something’s got a hold on me, tonight
Well, maybe all of my friends should confront
The fact that I don’t want
Another girl
The Killers - Just Another Girl
The other fish in the sea….
looking terrible because they’re out of their element? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xLGSaa72kGg
Looks like us men really need to learn consoling in that talk therapy style women are using
“But you’re not in the sea, you’re in the desert. Alone.”
and then I see the pyramids and realise that a Pizza Hut is nearby.
sure, there’s lots of fish in the sea – but the sea is also fucking massive, and full of hungry sharks that look like other fish. At a certain point, going in the water is not, can not be worth it.
This is how I would look at said bro.
There’s lots of fish out in the pond In the oceans and the rivers and in all the waterfalls But if I’m made for land and not the sea at all Could I crawl and find some kind Neanderthal?
There are plenty of bugs under that rock over there.
Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Give only what you can afford to lose and give that freely already having made peace with the possibility of failure, and most of your surprises will be pleasant ones. It’s a balance. You are doing good by others in opening your heart. Continue the practice, and you’ll only get better at it. Stronger in the face of loss. More visible in the eyes of those who actually would love you - by baring who you are so they won’t miss out.
