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Imagine needing to be thanked for that, yeah I can do it myself if you really have the need for pointless gratitude lol
Yeah… OK biatch, if you wanna pay for my food too…
The divider is so the cashier knows when to stop ringing more stuff up because it isn’t yours. If she moved the divider back afterwards, that almost implies that she wants to buy the persons behind her products. The story makes no sense, the divider is something you put up for yourself, it just happens to benefit everybody.
This doesn’t make a lot of sense. Amanda is talking about a “woman in Tesco”, but somehow knows the reason she took the divider back. Did the woman announce this or something? Or is it just guesswork? Or is it a bullshit made-up story? You decide!
More to the point though, putting the divider would help her more than it helps the man. Because without the divider she risks the mans stuff being confused with her stuff, such that she might pay for items that aren’t hers, or just wait her own time. So why should the dude be thanking her if she’s actually just looking after her own interests? (And all that is aside from the fact that it is such a low-effort ordinary interaction that a person might not notice or care that it happened.)
I’m human and I enjoy these stories of pettiness just like anybody else.
But if I may please speak in my “old man who has seen things” capacity for a moment, this is not the way to live. You should endeavor to do positive things every day to make life better for people around you as well as yourself. And you don’t do this because it gets you praise or rewards, you do it because of the internal rewards. It’s good for your mind.
Exactly.
Delighted to realize that my default internal voice for this man is the one from South Park.
Eh. I just consider it a common courtesy thing that doesn’t require a response.
Yeah exactly. This is like holding a door for the person 2 steps behind you. It’s something that decent people do without a second thought, because it’s the right thing to do.
Yeah, nobody has ever said thank you when I’ve done it, nor did I expect them to.
Oh I’m sorry. Everyone deserves a thanks on occasion. Thank you kind stranger, i am so flighty i forget to say it at the store 😋
I am autistic. Talking to total strangers anywhere but online is really fucking hard. I find the words catching in my throat every time I go to speak. And even then, sometimes it’s barely above a whisper.
To a normal person, this is petty. To me and mine, this is cruel. And you have no way to tell which it will be. Maybe you shouldn’t support this.
I was over here thinking what if somebody didn’t even know that was what she was doing or that they were supposed to say thank you. Now that poor person will be left wondering what even happened because her resolution (picking it up and putting it back) provides no opportunity to learn.
Cruelty usually is the point. It’s why I think humans should part ways from each other, end this civilizational bullshit.
I can’t fault you. At least we should organize into groups of 150 or less, the theorized maximum number of people that your average hairless ape can comprehend compassionately.
I propose a cell-based or council-network system that uses directly overlapping membership via 25 member subgroups, with each person a member of two groups. It maximizes empathic reach as members would better empathize with members of their two groups while increasing the likelihood members would empathize with members of a different group through the connection of another group member.
Sadly, some Anticrist wannabies run the world. Ask them.
I’m autistic, rules are rules. The divider provider must be acknowledged.
Voice is improved with practice. Join a toastmasters,or learn to sing?
Putting the divider down is also polite. Why are we expected to always be the most polite or suffer cruelty if we don’t comply? It’s a two-way street.
And my voice is fine. It’s the presssure and anxiety of the situation. The nervousness makes it harder to speak loudly.
The point here is that removing the divider after having placed it simply for the person not thanking them is petty at best and cruel at worst, and it simply shouldn’t happen.
People should be better, and should have some fucking grace and consider that maybe said person has a hard time speaking, or yet again worse, is mute.
Putting the divider down is also polite. Why are we expected to always be the most polite or suffer cruelty if we don’t comply?
I always put the divider down behind my stuff, line behind me or no, and expect nothing in return from the people behind me. If the person in front of me can’t be arsed to put the divider down after their stuff, it’s fun to see how many of my items get scanned before they get to have an awkward conversation with the cashier. Yes I’m normal and well adjusted, why do you ask?
And my voice is fine. It’s the presssure and anxiety of the situation. The nervousness makes it harder to speak loudly.
Yes, that’s why you have to practice. I got over mine by working in a hifi shop when I was 16. You have to speak to people, practice makes you better
I agree that we should all work on ourselves to the best of our ability, but I think the point I’m sticking on is the idea that this person deserves to be punished with revenge rudeness if they fail to perform politeness a specific way.
That’s one of those things where the only way out is through.
Yes!
“I did something great, you must now do it or you are less than me 👋”
Now let me condescend to you with advice that you don’t want from a pretty obviously petty person that overcame one small flaw
Sounds great! Where do I sign up!
Yeeeeeah fuck off with that
And I’d tell you that, in person, both assertively and clearly
It’s called shared experience you retard
Yeah you clearly don’t have offline friends
New flaw found! Gotta practice not being an asshole
I overcame it when I was just a boy, you should practice more!
Edit: I just couldn’t resist
I think you might be taking this personally and not really understanding what it’s like.
It’s you that is lacking compassion.
Couldn’t resist what? Being a massive bell end? Are you autistic? No? stfu then
Or people could try not being so prissy and obsessed with victorian “values”.
Also autistic : Rules are a construct we ourself shape and create in order to archive the illusion of control over the raw anarchy that is the reality of free will and sovereign thought.
Free will? Sovereign thought? Scientificaly disproven.
It’s just polite, I wasn’t being entirely serious
literally, the divider is to protect the person in front from having to pay for a accidental scan of the items the person behind them may place. it’s literally is everyone’s interest that the divider is there. don’t go expecting thanks yous in general but especially when the action was in self interest
You can be a victim or a victor, you made your choice…needlessly.
You can Literally order groceries to be picked up w no human interaction or go to self check out.
I don’t think “cease interacting with humans” is the best advice.
We live in a society in which that’s the preference of most people shopping today. Thus I dont think your advice is the best advice.
Also, If you’re gonna (needlessly) waste everyones time gonna with a meltdown by causeing a scene, then you are being as selfish as someone driving slow in the fast lane.
This is grocery shopping, get your celery and get out. Im not saying lock him in a padded room.
Not saying thank you isn’t having a meltdown or making a scene, nor is it analogous to unsafe driving practices. Are you thinking this up just because they said they’re autistic?
My advice is only to not be passive-aggressive when people don’t behave the way you think they should, which is pretty low-effort.
So dumb… the divider is for her and the checkout person’s benefit. for fuck sakes
Yeah, but social punishment for rudeness is how you get a world where strangers are polite to each other
Causing a tiny inconvenience for yourself is worth it
It only causes inconvenience for herself and the cashier. It doesn’t effect the guy behind her even slightly.
Yeah, but social punishment for rudeness is how you get a world where strangers are polite to each other
Bwahaha sure it is… look at what the OP posted…Do you think this event made the OP polite?
Yes? Obviously? Someone else got mildly publicly embarrassed for not being polite to a stranger
As someone who does the little things like hold the door for others, I think to myself “okay, asshole” every time doesn’t acknowledge it. It makes me just a little more hesitant to do it in the future
When someone does get called out for it, it’s incredibly vindicating. Even seeing it second hand is validating
There’s such a thing as a good Karen. Society does need Karens, but we need them to call out people making the world a worse place in little ways like this
So you only do good things if people thank you?
No? I just expect acknowledgement. Just a little head nod or basically any sound
I’m not a doorman. I’m holding the door so you feel like you’re in a slightly friendlier world, I didn’t have to do this. I don’t expect others to do it for me, but my day gets a little better when they do.
These little interactions are how a society feels friendly. It’s the fabric of civilization
When you walk through like you’re entitled to have doors held for you, then fuck you. You’re snubbing someone trying to make the world a slightly friendlier place
Oh I agree about what should happen, but your argument is that if people don’t ack you then you’ll stop doing it.
Personally I find if the person behind me isn’t even looking up to see where they’re going then I just let the door close. I’m not shutting it in their face, I’m just treating them the way they like to be treated. But that’s different from being petty and undoing the kindness – ie slamming it in their face.
this isn’t like somebody left a cart blocking the sidewalk in front of the store lol
Yeah, and a simple arm movement could put it back
It’s proportional
Big Karen energy.
“entitlement”
use your vocabulary…
“all bad women are karen” is so 2010…Ok Erik
psh, real Robert energy coming off you, chief
Now you’re cooking with gas.
Whatever Chief.
so you only speak in cliches then?
It is to stop items from accidentally getting charged to the wrong person. It benefits both people. I never expect a thank you for doing it. If something gets charged to the wrong person, everyone gets screwed. You, the cashier, and this idiot. Now everyone has to wait for the cashier to void the transaction and call a manager over. Congratulations, you played yourself.
I’m just gonna keep what I paid for, thank you very much.
Congratulations, you’ve now only played yourself here, ending up buying something you didn’t want or need.
You’ve also played the other person that is now missing an item
They can just go get the thing they’re missing, they’ve lost nothing but you’ve wasted money in some weird senseless vendetta that only you suffer from.
Weird senseless vendetta is all I live for these days.
And then they state that and you gotta wait for the items to be removed from your order and you might have to wait for the supervisor. Own goal.
All because you’re ego is so fragile you need praise for something you have to do anyway.
They have to go back. Effort is my death penalty. I would suffer
Sticking it to the maaaan! Yeah baby!
“Thanks for the muffin carton, dick!”
Putting down the divider is not a courtesy, it is expected of you.
This is like expecting someone to say thank you because you flushed the toilet before leaving it
In all of my experience, it’s required for the person behind them to put the divider on the belt before putting their own groceries down. Not on the person in front to put it down after their items (unless they’re trying to be courteous)
Here in Germany, i’ve observed it the other way around: Everyone always puts a divider behind their items.
Other way around. If you don’t want to pay for my shit, set your divider.
i liked the other comment that also said it was like thanking someone for flushing the toilet and hour after you posted
Practically never in my whole live, standing in thousands of checkout lines, have l heard anyone say “Thank you” to another person placing a divider.
Maybe under very special circumstances that primarily had nothing to do with the divider itself.It is in both person’s interest to place it, so the the one who has the opportunity to do it just does.
Had I encountered the woman from the post, I just would have classified her as mentally not entirely stable and kept my distance…
Have probably heard thank you more often than not in California
It’s like saying thank you to someone for flushing the toilet.
I had a girl say thabk you to me three days ago. But that was because I put the divider down and then used it to drag my stuff towards the cashier to make more space for her stuff.
That’s one of the exceptions I was thinking about. Looking at someone and deciding to do something beneficial specifically for that person.
I say thank you when people put them in front of me, including the cashier.
Which is totally ok!
Although I would either be slighty confused by it or more likely wouldn’t even register it at all, as not expecting thanks to be directed at me.
After all, placing the divider is somewhat of a selfish action on my part, omitting later stress…I would thank you too. GET APPRECIATED BITCH.
#idontthinkyoureabitch
#sorryaboutthat
#igotcarriedaway
#thanksforthatdividerthingthough
Do you live in a city? In the admittedly pretty large village I live in, I hear it almost every time I go to Home Bargains.
Home Bargains is British, isn’t it?
So maybe region-dependent custom.
Here in Germany I would judge it to be equally uncommon both in cities and the more rural areas.Yes, it is. I had assumed you were British, since the tweet is also about a British, albeit multinational, store chain. My bad, perhaps I should’ve looked at the instance you’re from.
I’m sorry, I fail to see how this reads as anything other than “Amanda” being an insanely self-important cunt…
So, if you “support this” feel free to assume that extends to you as well
I’m sorry but I have to assume you’re not British (which is fine, not your fault). You wouldn’t survive one day in the jungle of unspoken rules of politeness that is a Tesco queue.
No ‘thank you’ for a divider? That’s a firm mild stare for you
No ‘no worries’ when people apologise for forgetting to thank you for the divider? Rude.
No ‘nonono it was me luv’ when people tell you ‘no worries’ after you apologised for forgetting to thank them for the divider? Are you some sort of sociopathic asshole?
I’d rather shoot myself than have to navigate that purgatory, holy shit
No worries love! (subtitle: ‘go on shoot yourself’)
Wow, really? You’re just going to literally tell someone to go kill themselves because they don’t want to live by your grocery store line etiquette?
Yeah, that’s not fucked up or anything…
Yikes.
Sorry it’s actually in the law. It was voted by a very large majority of MPs in 1988. Not putting the divider on the belt usually results in the bobbies taking you out of Tesco and shooting you on the bus replacement service.
No reason to get all riled up like this LMAO.
It is well within the confines of the conversationOr wait, is this missing a /s?
Go kill yourself
Now that is outside the confines of the conversation.
I don’t think you understood the joke. And since I imitated a joke about shooting myself, continuing that joke was fine, even funny; this is not
💀💀💀😭😭😭🗿🗿🗿🗿
I’d rather get punched in the dick then deal with this passive aggressive bullshit.
No worries! Cheers. Ta. Sorry.
I’d recently blocked “LadyButterfly she/her” because I was getting fed up of her constant low effort ragebait, so I was surprised to see this post appear on my feed - it turns out she’s posting from multiple instances, presumably to get around either blocks or bans.
Oh wow… Ya know, I’d noticed on a few occasions that she seemed to be the predominant poster in a few of my mental health/'tism related subs, but now that you’ve brought it to my attention I can’t seem to recall her posting anything OTHER THAN the most basic of basic bitch, LCD kinda stuff day in and day out… So the whole “secret identities” aspect tracks too 🤣😂
Yup. Also the post captions always read a bit too engagmentey, if that makes sense? Like either the account is a bot, or it’s one that being run cynically by a farm who’s following a set of guidelines to maximize reach over anything like sincere interest or value or humanity.
People who get stirred to rage by someone momentarily impressed by mild and inconsequential pettiness: “This is some kind of social media conspiracy.”
It’s hardly tinfoil hat time - I defy you to name a single poster anywhere on Lemmy who reads more like a repost bot or engagement farmer than that particular user.
Shit, is she getting paid? How do I sign up?
I browse by subscribed, so I don’t see a lot of stuff. But off the top of my head? Stamets, King, Mickey7, probably others I don’t recall.
Pretty sure OP switched instances some time back if you’re wondering why you see her stuff.
If I was getting paid I wouldn’t have needed to beg for money a few weeks ago just to try and remain homeless. If I was getting paid I wouldn’t be so worried about getting holiday gifts for my friends or myself. Getting paid… fuckin’ lol
It’s kinda funny to be honest. So many people get so worked up the second that they start seeing someone post because, to them, they cannot fathom someone posting that much to social media without an actual incentive whether that be monetary or anything else.
Yeah? You’re supposed to put it down after You’re done.
I’m not gonna thank someone for flushing the loo after they’re done either.
why would you just copy another comment like that?
Maybe they are the same person trapped in different multiverses
seems likely
I’ve given up on having expectations of other people.
I’ve decided to just be nice to everyone no matter the circumstance or reaction. If you don’t want to be nice or polite … screw you.
If you want to be unkind, negative or rude … I’m going away from you as fast as possible … and if I can’t avoid you, I’m giving you an earful of how I feel about your stinking guts
