• AyuTsukasa@lemmy.zip
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    21 hours ago

    I never really understood this take. To me it’s just a goal that they’re sharing with me. Like if they told me they just got married I’m not going to take it as them gloating about the wedding night specifically.

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      14 hours ago

      It’s because of the term trying. They are TRYING to have a kid, which explictedly means they are fucking.

      Now on the other hand if you said “we are pregnant and having a kid” that’s different. Your sharing the actual event of having the kid and that the wife is actively pregnant. This also has the secondary effect of notifying those it’s told to that the wife may need special consideration due to the pregnancy.

      No one gives a fuck or wants to hear about you fucking, but once the fucking is done there is an actual actively useful purpose to telling people that there is an active pregnancy.

      Phrasing matters.

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        Phrasing matters.

        Nah, sorry… if this bothers you at all, you have hangups. People talk all the time about their plans for their relationships or future, if you can’t deal with that without having sexual imagery planted into your head, that’s a skill issue. Or maybe a deeper issue that actually does need to be addressed, OCD is a branch of anxiety disorder and are often treated similarly. A lot of people live with OCD and the uninvited thoughts and images it can put in your mind without realizing it’s even a condition and just assume they’re “anxious” but get more and more obsessed with certain words, situations or imagery they can’t shut out.

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        I dunno it just seems like a reach to me. It’s just them wanting to share that they decided to take the next step in their relationship. They’re excited and just want others to be excited with them.

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      I also don’t get it. By extension one should also see the same “disgusting” reaction about absolutely everyone’s parents. Because guess what, this is how we reproduce.

      Yet most people aren’t shocked when they learn somebody has children.

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        I know my mother fucks, in fact she has a wildly active sex life after the divorce. Doesn’t mean I want to hear about it.

        But if a pregnancy happens it would be good to know about cause that has a LOT of things related to that fact that needs to be considered.

        But just trying to have a kid? Why the fuck do I want to hear about other people fucking if I’m not involved. Unless your inviting me to join keep it to your self.

        I’m happy to say grats on the pregnancy after the fucking is done tho, but seriously… Phrasing and context matters people.

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          Unfortunately(fortunately?) you’re not as massive a pervert as the artist. I mean I don’t even know what extra long tongues have to do with reproduction - seems the character they drew is just so constantly horny they hallucinate their fetish at the slightest mention of anything related to sex.

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      Also why does having a baby automatically have to be about the sex? Yes you need sex to have one but thats not the point. People want kids.

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        You don’t need sex to have a kid, actually. There’s the adoption process and IVF as well. Both would also technically be “trying for a baby”, but people usually are more specific when talking about those.

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          Which just means sex is even more besides the point of having a baby so no need to be so weird about it.

          That said It’s pretty important in sex education to acknowledge that babies can result from PIV sex.

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            12 hours ago

            That was exactly my point. It absolutely qualifies as “trying to/working on having a kid”, definitely as much or more so than tracking cycles for unprotected sex. Similar for the IVF process.

            It’s work and it’s not easy.

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        12 hours ago

        they did not say they’re having a baby. they’re trying to have a baby. no baby yet, but they are doing things to have one

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            my point is that it makes no sense for a couple to announce that they just started having sex and there’s no pregnancy yet. when there is now, or if they have been trying for long without success, that could be newsworthy, but otherwise it’s literally just announcing that you two started having unprotected sex.