A rather free love friend of a friend was trying to fuck guys from every sign of the zodiac, and she hadn’t gotten to Cancer yet. As an amateur astronomer now, and a child who was raised by a lunatic into all sorts of woo, I declined on principle.
Look, have your fun. But woo is a relationship red flag for me. You cannot remind me of my mother if you want me turned on. I haven’t gotten laid countless times. I don’t need or want sex that badly. I desire someone I can trust to keep a firm grasp on reality.
I have a female friend who is an Astronomer. I always call her Astrologer, especially at parties and such.
I generally try not to yuck anyone’s yum, I won’t make fun but I will just straight up say I don’t believe in anything spiritual or magical.
That is such a Leo thing to say
That’s such a Gemini thing to say.
according to some folks, taking responsibility for your behavior is a shitty thing to do.
I shall say that I’ve both done that AND gotten laid
yeah but you get laid more if you agree to blame nebulous abstract concepts for personal and social grievances.
or blame their parents… that always works too.
Ah, it says straight men, therein is the disconnect
LGBT+ folks believe in astrology at the same rate as straight women.
Tis a shame
Alas
I can feel this post in my root chakra
I’m straight, been married 32 years, and my wife hates astrology. There’s no dilemma.
Hating astrology is such a leo thing
Damn. I dislike astrology… And I’m a Leo lol. Did you see this in the stars? Is mercury in Gatorade?
I did see a Gatorade recall today so there very well could be mercury in Gatorade
Mercury is in retrograde, Mars and Saturn coloring apparently was not screened for… So they got flagged
She single, by any chance?
Better astrology than witchcraft. I have been through both in my younger days. I do have to admit, the witch was far more fun in bed.
Or you can just have a decent personality. I’ve never had a problem with both not believing in their astrology and getting laid. Just don’t be a dick about it and talk about something else.
I’ll choose making fun of astrology.
even if i were male and straight, I don’t think i could ever respect astrology…
but moreover, it’s creepy as fuck for someone to pretend a change in their beliefs just for sex. that’s kinda literally false pretense for sex. i know I’d never convince a jury of it, but as far as I’m concerned in my personal life, imagining doing such a thing fills me with revulsion and it crosses the line into sexual assault territory.
you realize it’s incredibly common for folks to do this? of any gender?
i broke up with most of my exes because they false presented themselves to me. they saw absolutely nothing wrong with it, and to them I was the one who was awful and terrible for not ‘loving and accepting them for who they really are’. i had one ex who specific said ‘you’d have never dated me if i had told you the truth’.
was I sexually assaulted by those women? who deliberately lied to me to have sex and engage in a relationship with me?
I don’t think very many people would consider what they did as sexual assault.
The difference is most of them don’t believe in any of it. It’s just entertaining to them. Find ten people who say like astrology and ask them to make base a life deciding event on it all 10 of them will make the decision on factors outside of astrology.
An easy way to tell, if they ask what month you were born in, they don’t believe in astrology… As the months don’t line up with the stars.
Theres a not so secret third option, don’t date folks that believe in such nonsense.
Nobody said anything about dating
Pretending to believe in astrology to get laid is kind of rapey by today’s standards.
What’s the difference in pretending to believe in astrology and pretending to be interested in anything else they’re saying?
I just hit them with the “Oh wow that’s crazy yeah I don’t really know much about all of that tbh”.
The old I can’t dance, but I’d love to hold you while you do ploy.
i did that on my last date when she started talking to me about biotec startups to invest in privately because she wasn’t getting enough return on her stock portfolio and she was expected a double digit return or how else could she retire comfortably?
We have been married for 46 years now. Despite the fact she was into astrology and I listened intensely to her about it in the beginning. It is called learning everything about each other. And if anyone was “rapey”, it was her. These days she laughs and says it was the rebellious catholic upbringing in her, (I still call her a recovering Catholic). And that I was oblivious to all the hints she was dropping in front of me.
It all just one of the many shared memories we have together. I wouldn’t give any of them up for life itself.
what if you believe but you don’t believe as much as the other person?
If the guy doesn’t believe as much it’s rape but if the woman doesnt believe as much it’s not.
You’re not ok, are you?
They’re a rape apologist and trolling to try to prove a point about Cornell. Look at the comment history.
Oh, that makes a lot more sense.
Save yourself time and don’t lie about who you are.
This is also job application advice. If you never smile in real life but you pretend to act bubbly for an entire interview: your ass better bubble like a pro if you’re hired.
But ymmv
I bought an astrology tapestry when I was in university. I don’t buy into astrology really but the tapestry served its purpose.
nice
what if the other person doesn’t believe the truth about who you are?
personally, I’ve noticing people accusing me of lying when I’m telling the truth frequently. And when I lie, they think I’m telling the truth and never question it.
Weird how that works.
It’s like when you are drunk, but not as much as the other person.
and what if the more drunk person threatens you if you don’t rape them? or worse, threatens to tell others you raped them if you don’t rape them?
what do you do then? I’ve been in that situation a couple of times. Not a fun place to be. Sometimes doing the right thing gets you punished.
Secret 4th option, there is so much worse you could believe in.
Why let something as silly as that stop you from participating in a relationship that you might otherwise enjoy?
As long as it’s not harmful why is it an issue?
I had several friends at school with the same birthday as me, so obviously we had the same personality and all the same stuff kept happening to us.
A first cousin and I are “twins of a different mother”, born with one hour difference, 800Km away. Our lives are extremely different.
were you conceived in an orgy
Wouldn’t you need to be born at the same time and in the same town?
sounds like a good plot for a movie
A friend set me up on a date with a coworker of him. then she spent about 20 minutes drawing my astral chart. She had notes, books and even an iPad app.
Eventually she concluded we were not compatible, while I concluded the same thing about 20 seconds in.
Yeah, I ain’t putting up with that either. People can have their beliefs, but getting my head screwed on straight was a hard fought, lifelong journey. I cannot go back.
Bro dodged a bullet 💀
And wtf, what’s that shit of judging a person you don’t ever know just because of some crazy cards bs.
Would you smash though?
