• usernamefactory@lemmy.ca
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    6 hours ago

    Such an annoying response. Personality is not on the menu. You get tits or you get ass, make your choice.

    It’s like playing a game of fuck/marry/kill with a list of celebrities and someone says “well obviously I’m going to marry my wife Charlene”. That’s not the damn game!

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    12 hours ago

    Well, some of us have no tiddies either, so we’ll have to find some common, inclusive ground. Anyoune got a problem with ass being the answer?

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    10 hours ago

    I’ve made this mistake before, I’m going to stick with personality and tits, with the latter being far more optional.

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    No, I prefer personality, you having personality disorder just makes you even better even hotter and more beautiful.

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      Yeah it’s really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It’s so beautiful when someone can’t shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn’t clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.

      Please don’t fetishize mental disability.

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        You literally described a lot of what my partner deals with every day. We’ve been married for over 8 years and they still feel uncertainty that I will leave them, or they’ll go weeks without showering because that requires too many spoons and they’re insomniac and haven’t slept in 5 days and just eating a teacup amount of food when I make dinner for us.

        Doesn’t mean I don’t love them any less. Can it be frustrating? Of course. Can it be annoying? Of course. But I married this person because I love the person, disabilities and all.

        It’s not fetishizing anything. Their disabilities make them 1 of 1. I married an incredibly unique individual and I love them wholeheartedly. And all the positives I get out of the relationship greatly outweigh the negative quirks.

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          That’s nice. I’m happy for you both.

          Your comment made it sound like you love them thanks to their disabilities, rather than because of who they are which includes their disabilities. That the disability positively affects your rating of them rather than it being an integral part of them when they are always good enough. I’m glad that isn’t the case, though I stand by my reaction being appropriate to what you wrote.

          (edit: fixed misgendering)

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            My keyboard psychologist also says that person has some kind of codependency issues… but if they’re truly happy, all’s good and I wish them well.

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            Love how you not only assumed the reasons I love my partner but also misgendered them at the same time.

            Maybe you should sit down and think about how you view others before judging them.

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              Sorry for the misgendering, I don’t know how I messed that up.

              I thought I was paraphrasing what you said. So if you still have the patience to help me out, could you explain how the things I said were wrong?

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        I personally would consider psychological disorders or mental illnesses to be completely different to a personality disorder, but that’s not a common stance to have. Regardless, i hear you.

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      Yeah it’s really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It’s so beautiful when someone can’t shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn’t clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.

      Please don’t fetishize mental disability.

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        Yes, I dated somebody who had cluster B (antisocial, borderline, histrionic, narcissistic) which made her abusive. It was not hot and it was not cute, and it ruined our relationship (which was sad).