• maria [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    2 hours ago

    you either die a child or grow old enough to treat your child the way you would have liked to be treated… if u feel like it. I know many peeps here hate children.

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      2 hours ago

      I’m assuming the word is supposed to be peeps and not pedos. I hope you don’t know many pedos.

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        yes, i meant like ones literal children, as in, you are a parent.

        if I knew pedos, I wouldnt mind much, maybe try and get them on a better path with things or help them find help.

        EIDT: whoops, yea ur right, it really said “peeos”, fair, thats my bad. fixed it, thanks for pointing it out ~

  • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    9 hours ago

    It’s fair to say there are tops who don’t receive constructive criticism well, but those of us who do absolutely depend on that feedback to give what’s wanted and/or needed.

    There’s no shortage of subs who give no information during or after. There’s only so many times I can ask questions only to have no reply beyond a “yes mistress” or “harder please” … I can’t punish you into giving thoughtful feedback :-/

    This might be harder for me, because being autistic I’m not the best at reading body cues, but I try to be honest about my limitations.

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      4 hours ago

      I feel this sooooo hard

      I need all the information on how what I am doing is being received, thank you
      Thankfully my partner/sub is pretty good at it

      also part of it is I’m pretty sure I am a service dom/(and top? idk) and I enjoy maximizing and optimizing my partner’s pleasure…

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        3 hours ago

        Nothing wrong with being a service top, as long as you get satisfaction from it!

        Edit to add: Meanwhile I struggle with not being bossy at everyone around me, lol

  • maria [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    8 hours ago

    im second- or think im second. i wanna be second. i wanna make others feel good — cuz thats a really special feeling.

    edit: ALSO!!! hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm i wonder if this relates to someone hHmMMMMMmMmmmMm… that likely wasnt intentioned (I don’t mean myself)

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        5 hours ago

        whaaaat well now I’m wondering who u were addressing with this cuz I dont think we are thinking of the same person… maybe.

        you aren’t talking about Orange, are you?..

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          Yes, it does relate to orange, but not entirely. They’re a dom at heart who could only really sub for someone stronger than them, but still they still desire to be dominated.

          Also, I’m happy you admit that orange is a specific person :3

          • maria [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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            oh ummmm… I did admit it in matrix chat, they were there too and even, completely coincidentally said, that if they at some point should show up in a comic, theyd wanna be rainbow colored. so i… didnt want to make the connection too obvious and stayed vaguer about the whole thing. thats also why I leaned in so hard about Lilacs sadness, cuz if the connection were clearer… well that would sound like I was being hurt, which is false… I’m overlapping, yesyes.

  • TheThunderWolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    9 hours ago

    kinda me :3

    except that i dont do it the way i wanna recieve it i do it the way the one recieving wants

    i just wanna make my partners happy >w<

    im a subservient people-pleasing puppy :3

  • Shirow@lemmy.zip
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    9 hours ago

    I feel seen. I rarely switch and if I do, I know there are some thing that I like and try on my partner and I know that gets them going because it does for me (well I’m mostly right about that, at least to the 2 sexual partners I’ve ever had.).

    Never met someone who is fully top though and couldn’t experience it for now.

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      11 hours ago

      It’s the noble task. Know the rules, make the adventure and give them the imaginary time of their lives, so you can imagine being among them.

      (And you kinda are tbh, those skeletons and goblins are nothing but a boogieman disguise for the unseen member of the gang).

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    13 hours ago

    I’m almost certain I’m just going to die alone. There is no top. There is no bottom. There is just forward.

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        I can be either, depending on what the sub wants tbh. I just get off on other people getting as much pleasure as they can have.

        I love a good soft Dom myself but I can also be a pain slut depending on where I’m at in my cycle, so I understand the appeal of both. Hell I also love a good soft psychological dom that uses degradation to play mind games with me .

        All I’m interested in when I dom is seeing somebody whimper and beg for me, by any means.

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    14 hours ago

    This is kind of the opposite for me.

    When I was younger I used to switch, but really always preferred being a bottom.

    Nowadays I just wanna be a sub; If someone doesn’t like that I can find another woman who will.

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      11 hours ago

      lol, I’ve recently started training my wife to top, mostly to help with her self confidence outside the bedroom, and I’ve gotta say … I’m getting a LOT more out of the experience than I thought I would

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    17 hours ago

    I’ve been told I’m the last actual top.

    I’ve had numerous surgeries on my booty, its not a place anyone is allowed to go for good reason. Already have enough fucking issues down there.

    Anyway, it would be nice to meet a bottom who is okay with this Shrek-looking motherfucker someday.