• CADmonkey@lemmy.world
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    What I have done since I was about 16 years old is grow my hair as long as I can stand it, and then donate it. I’ve done this multiple times. Im now in my late 40’s and my hair is to the middle of my back again.

    Something I have noticed with this latest long hair journey: nobody touches my hair. Before, I would get random women touching my hair without asking. Just suddenly someone is in my hair. But that doesn’t happen anymore thankfully.

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    2 hours ago

    never had this problem, although I do have way too many conversations about conditioning routines now.

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    10 hours ago

    “Oh darn, someone has something nice but I can’t use them for it”

    Sometimes it’s good to be happy for other people without getting something tangible out of it.

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        Hey as long as we’ve got experts here, could a purely non binary person be considered gay or heterosexual in any configuration or are they always bisexual? Even if only as a limitation of the language?

        To elaborate on that I am nonbinary and bisexual myself and without missing a beat it’s like every non-binary person I meet is also bisexual. And that’s all good and all feels very natural, and nobody should feel pressured to be anything else

        But like, if I was trying to not be bisexual, what would that look that? Would I just start listing specific preferences and the orientation just wouldn’t have a particular name?

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            Oh, are you one of those people who just skim over random words from a paragraph and respond based on the vibe of what you think was said?

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                There is no hinting. I am directly accusing you of interpretive cherry picking, with the added politeness of suggesting that it may be unintentional. I will continue to be polite in this fashion, although I have growing doubts as to your sincerity.

                And that’s all good and all feels very natural, and nobody should feel pressured to be anything else

                Since you read that, what about it sounded judgy and prescriptivist?

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            I’ve considered that, and I agree in theory, but is that something that occurs on the level of sexual attraction?

            In practice I feel like it’s a romantic quality, i.e. “since we are both non-binary, I feel we understand each other and I feel especially safe with you, and in fact this type of relationship is the only one I would want”,

            I suppose in this manner you could easily be a gay demisexual enbie, but I wonder of the larger cohort of people who experience a more immediate sexual attraction

            Again, not that it’s important to have this all ironed out neatly. I just feel like it hasn’t been ironed out neatly, you know?

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              In practice I feel like it’s a romantic quality, i.e. “since we are both non-binary, I feel we understand each other and I feel especially safe with you, and in fact this type of relationship is the only one I would want”,

              That does sound a lot like demisexual to me.

              If you call yourself homosexual I worry that some people might misinterpret it and try and figure out a binary gender for you, which is unhelpful.

              You could just say you’re attracted to other enbies if someone asks? One word labels aren’t always the most important thing.

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    It’s commendable when men who have long hair actually practice proper hair care. Long hair on a man is often seen as a sign of neglect (growing it out because they can’t be bothered to cut it), but it takes way more effort to maintain long hair than short hair. So nothing but respect when they manage to sell the look.

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    10 hours ago

    I once told a man his long hair was really pretty. Thought about it later that dudes probably don’t like being called pretty. Ugh.

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      An ex called me beautiful and it was obviously very memorable as evidenced by my still remembering it. Another said I have amazing, seductive-lady-in-a-makeup-commercial eyelashes (but mostly only on one eye). That one was less moving, but still funny/nice-ish/I didn’t totally hate it. I just mean you might be surprised. Most guys won’t be picky about compliments. We’re like parched flowers.

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      Honestly… we’re not hugely used to compliments on average so I’m sure he appreciated it and maybe even still remembers and recounts it to this day!

      I try to keep my longer hair pretty but the curse of many a man’s hairline is slowly visiting upon mine crown. T_T

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      I love it when people say my hair is pretty, makes my whole day better! Recently, it happened twice in the same week and I’m still riding those feels!