- I didn’t take advantage of those Dominic Dillenger top-notch used car deals!
I’ve mastered 1, 2, 3, & 5 😄
“I wish I went to that orgy”
So 1, 3, 4, and 5
I never thought I’d die having worked so hard
What about having worked hard at an orgy?
Aye, I could do that
- I wish I’d never been born.
Agreed. Then none of this would be experienced by those who wish they didn’t have to.
When one of my coworkers was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer, his first words were, “Damn, I wish I had drank more beer.”
I regret not being born rich, got everything else. Haha. /moneybuysmorethanhappiness /fuckcapitalism
Nah, it doesn’t. The rich are not automatically happy. The rich, ignorant and stupid, maybe.
They’re a deeply miserable people, on the whole. If they had anything that gave them real joy in life, they would not need to be torturing society and bleeding us dry to fill the hole in their souls
Ah. I’d assumed ‘rich’ just meant no pressing money related fears, eat the food they want, safe water, warm and clothed, can go to doctor / dentist, access to knowledge / art / entertainment / community, work at the work you want only as much as you want, etc., not those broken money-hoarder people.
That is true wealth. But in terms of class, it’s like putting elephants and beetles in the same category when you’re an ant. There are orders of magnitude at play that effectively put us in the same league as bigger bugs whether either of us like it or not.
They missed out “I wish I spent more time arguing online with strangers”
Bro get the fuck out of here with that shit!
No you! You leave first! Fuck you!
Is this the 5 minute argument?
Whoa, can you both please just calm down a bit. Have a think about what you’ve just said to each other. THEN GET THE FUCK OFF OF MY INTERNET.
My dad invented the internet and he says you cunts better get lost or he’ll send over the cyber police!!
My dad works for Microsoft and hes got all your ip addresses. IF YOU ALL DONT FUCK OFF RIGHT NOW HE WILL DELETE ALL YOUR ACCOUNTS.
Clearly you waste your time on stupid things like “friends” and “empl*yment”, instead of productive things like spending 12 hours a day complaining about video games online
Oh you wanna piece of me??? Just because I’m 38 and live with my mother doesn’t mean I’m gonna take any shit from a scumbag like you! She works hard for our living and one day I’m gonna make her proud because I finally kissed a girl! Then you’ll be sorry you messed with me!
Sounds like I should be skipping work to have more gay sex
Im off all day, be here in thirty?
I don’t think that’s what they’re saying, but I am completely onboard with this.
Maybe how you dies matters but I wasn’t thinking about anything when I had my NDE like I’m busy dying I don’t have thoughts
Making a bold prediction here: in 30-40 years’ time, one of those will be replaced with something to the effect of “Waste less time on the internet”
I’ve noticed this with videogames, and tbh I’m kinda surprised more people haven’t connected it to there yet. Videogames can be a hobby, but if it’s all someone does at home for mental stimulation, I don’t forecast it’s living to the fullest. When going through a new experience, it can be memorable, yet the grind-heavy nature of most modern games doesn’t produce much for memorable moments, and often is forgotten in a month’s time save for the knowledge of how much time was spent on that.
Social media is rather similar, in that it mirrors the addictive nature of locking your attention and supplying unmemorable mental stimulation, at the cost of substantial time.
In my completely nonbiased and objective opinion that’s factual in every way: This is not healthy. I dont feel anyone will look back and say, “I wish I spent more time getting upvotes,” or “I wish I got that cool skin in the game I dont play anymore.”
I know I’m absorbed in the internet during most of my waking hours, but my real life is a hellish, traumatizing wasteland. (The experience of being trans in a car-dependant desolated city in an advanced state of capitalist alienation + severe trauma that I cannot realistically get the mental healthcare for or support here to deal with.)
I remember very little of my life. It’s like waking up from surgeries for short periods of time and experiencing little melancholic vignettes before going back under for unknown amounts of time. Laughing at stupid comments online in places like this is one of my only sources of joy.
Facing reality isn’t the solution to my situation, yet. I need sedation, and maybe then I can recover from my injuries enough to survive going through that process.
Yeah. I play a lot less videogames than I used to.
I always say it depends on the videogame. Strategy games can even be stimulating as it makes you think more.
Absolutely agree, great to see it written out so well. Took me a long time to come to this realization and part of it was playing even more assuming that the feeling was coming from not being able to spend the time on them I wanted.
Extra devious as the research for engagement and dopamine hooks only keeps improving, most games are just gambling games or choose your own adventure. I’ve found my quality of life skyrocketing switching to books and puzzles/puzzle games.
Tldr Play Tametsi, experience the joy of gaming again.
You should aim to have these regrets because it’s the people who lived long enough to be interviewed on their death bed that have them. The people who died suddenly probably have regrets like “I wish I hadn’t been texting while driving.”
“I wish I hadn’t been pulled into the ore crushing machine by my sleeve while on the 15th hour of my shift because it’s the only way in this town to make enough money to pay for the medicine my son needs to fight the disease this town and refinery caused in him”
But I guess maybe that counts as “I wish I didn’t work so much”
“I wish I had more bullet holes on my wingtips and the central section of the fuselage, and maybe some on the elevator.”
If they only kill themselves, it’s a benefit to humanity
I’m a motorcyclist and I HATE people using their phones while driving
As an ex-motorcyclist and current cyclist, eyes on a swivel, everyone on the road is a fucking idiot or one distraction away from being a ton of death metal. Bike infra is so peaceful. Phones, Valium, Passenger, Sleep deprivation, whatever, just assume the worst. Situational awareness is your friend, anticipate the idiocy.
This is why I do not use highways. I route myself with GPS to avoid highways because I just assume at some point I WILL get hit by some idiot, and I’d rather spend an extra few minutes driving and crash at 45mph than crash going 70mph. The amount of difference that makes is hard to put into words. Kinetic energy increases disproportionately with speed. So 70mph is like almost 3x as bad as 45mph.
Tbf, this is also how motorists should be viewing motorists.
That too.
As a current motorcyclist, everyone on the road is a fucking idiot, including me
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I still can’t get over randomly seeing Japanese words in an English context (especially when written in Kanji) haha. But yes, I do maintain a huge (thick? tall? lot of? big?) 建前 with almost everyone.
I did it on a wedding to top it off.
None of the slave contractees want to see me again.
There’s unionship celebrations, and there’s forcing people to marry for publicity ceremonies to settle the allegations of “premarital sex.”
Quick to façade when rumors show up, but not façade when I hear crying from the bride that she doesn’t want marry the groom then.People really love convenient lies. Many times more bearable than deal with your own moral misguidings. And thing that upsets me the most, is they know they are being hypocritical, and enjoy every Machiavellian aspect of it.
Notice who’s in the sample: people who had enough to afford end-of-life care and was open enough for a stranger to sit by the bed and listen. That’s mostly the middle class, privileged compared to those who die with nobody asking them anything. But read regret #2 again. These are people who worked their whole lives producing someone else’s income, with better rights than a servant but the same basic position. At the very end, they see it, when they don’t have to work for somebody else anymore! Above them, the wealthy die in private settings, with staff under confidentiality agreements. Ware couldn’t have gotten near them, and their nurses couldn’t have talked even if she had. Below the middle class, nobody has the time for retrospection. So this isn’t the regret of the dying. It’s the regret of the people who were allowed to be asked and had education and money to talk to someone.
I have a >!deserved!< reputation for sometimes having a stick up my arse
But you have stick-ception. The stick up your arse has a stick up its arse.
I am the stick, and this look indeed like an arsehole
Not everything is class war, knock it off
Yeah it is.
Oh how I wish that were true
The only justified war is cladd war.
Lemmy users have the uncanny ability to spin everything as class warfare. Everything.
Merci pour votre précieuse contribution, j’ai hâte de lire la prochaine contribution pleine d’esprit. Bisous bisous
Which country was this done in though? That would only apply in the US.
Quick edit - just looked it up, apparently it was done in Australia.
Not as different as I’d like.
How is this survivor bias?
People that didn’t work hard and live boring lives conforming to societal expectations died younger and weren’t interviewed.
That’s an interesting thought. I’ve always told the people I’ve managed that no one’s on their death bed wishing they worked harder, especially when they’re not using all their vacation time or parental leave.
If we could ask those who died young, worked into an early grave, would they be content to have died for their manager? Exhausted, with feelings unspoken, friendships neglected, and happiness deferred? One of my colleagues is a literal workaholic and would probably say yes to all (but they know not everyone is like them and doesn’t expect the same from the rest of us.) I suppose we must imagine Sisyphus happy.
For me, there is profound difference between finding meaning in a burden we choose to carry and pushing someone else’s boulder.
I was only explaining how this could be survivorship bias. I dunno if I would jump to that conclusion.
They had time to answer a poll before dying.
Some only got to answer 3
Yeah, the regrets we’re missing from the non survivor pool are:
- I wish I had worn the harness
- I shouldn’t have stood in front of that stampede of horses
- Should have fixed my brakes
- No one told me I wasn’t supposed to BBQ in the nursery
- Oh, the for profit health insurance industry is meant to destroy those who need it most, shit, maybe if I rob a bank I’ll have enough to cure my cancer or the cops will shoot me to death. Shoulda been born somewhere else.
Just be quicker then
So in other words, the things they are wishing for are what kill you early.
Apparently one common thought of people that survived jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge is not “in glad it’s all over now”, but “I could have solved all those problems except for having just done this”.
I’m not sure I buy that in cases of really bad depression, but in more situational situations, yeah, I’m sure realising you have the power to even just walk away or stop caring about some big stressor is probably really powerful.
Ofc in the regular world most people would rather die than, say, walk out on their family or their job.
