• TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world
    15·
    1 hour ago

    In all seriousness, as a guy, I am genuinely gobsmacked at how many men feel entitled to sex and blame their insecurities and lack of dating skills on women. Looking back, I’m glad that I came from a culture where it’s more egalitarian. The schools I went to taught us that feminism is about equality between men and women. It’s not about one gender being superior to the other. When I was younger, my mom repeated to me couple of times not to get upset if a woman rejects me, to the point I told her she keeps saying what I already know before.

    Later, as I got older, I realised that feminism and gender equality is taught differently in different places, or barely taught at all. Many people mistake feminism as female superiority. Some families don’t teach treating the opposite gender with respect. Even here in Europe, despite the progress since forever, I find Europeans still have more rigid gender expectations than in Southeast Asia.

    Sometimes, being born into what family and the environment you grow up in is a matter of luck and shape who you are. Despite my parents’ flaws, I’m lucky I was born to educated parents and our culture is more or less egalitarian despite some hiccups.

      • TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world
        5·
        47 minutes ago

        I don’t want to say specifically where I’m from, but I am originally from South East Asia. A common theory for the relative gender equality is because of the sea-faring, nomadic culture of Austronesians, who populated South East Asia and later the Pacific. Apparently, because of the lifestyle and constant movement, the workload is distributed between men and women, which promotes egalitarianism. Similar thing is observed on Native Americans and hunter gatherer cultures. I don’t know how solid the theory is but I will have to read more on it.

        Even with South East Asia now being a “settled” society, and Abrahamic religions introducing some patriarchal ideas, the egalitarian value still largely remains as far as I can tell. There is remarkably more women in management roles in South East Asia compared to other countries. Many Westerners even noted how there are many female security guards in my home country.

  • Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.caEnglish
    1·
    21 minutes ago

    Yes… Far better to put the country in the hands of an emotional creature who has 1000s of emotions in one minute and is also a traitor and a pedophile. That’s MUCH better you insufferable piece of abattoir runoff.

  • itkovian@lemmy.world
    28·
    4 hours ago

    And men don’t? I am willing to bet that the most wars in history could be traced to men who couldn’t cope with their emotions in a healthy way.

    • tetris11@feddit.ukEnglish
      1·
      12 minutes ago

      *a few. I like to believe wars were fought more over resource domineering than ideology ir emotion

      Otherwise jesus are we lost as a species

  • VibeSurgeon@piefed.socialEnglish
    19·
    5 hours ago

    How would it even work to have 1000s of emotions each minute? That’s a minimum of 16,6 emotions every second. Is he under the impression that women have superhuman time perception?

    • Dave@lemmy.nz
      5·
      5 hours ago

      Is your experience reading the OP? Because that post is full of emotion. I think thw post is ironic but after Alanis Morissette I’m never sure anymore.

  • Die Mart Die@sh.itjust.works
    8·
    7 hours ago

    Father Nathan Monk mentioned. He’s an activist ex priest that posts interesting stuff about religion, most often Christianity, including the hypocrisy of most religious people.

    I’d recommend a follow if he was on the Fediverse, but he seems to be active on X, Substack, and Facebook.

  • DaGeek247@fedia.io
    75·
    11 hours ago

    I find it incredibly stupid when people blame the forests when they have a problem with a specific tree. And that’s just the most sympathetic take on why he posted this in the first place.

    No sympathy for this guy at all.

    • TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world
      3·
      1 hour ago

      I find it incredibly stupid when people blame the forests when they have a problem with a specific tree.

      That’s why I have a problem with the phrase “improving yourself” because it’s such a broad statement and nonspecific. A guy could be a gym buff but still struggle to date because he’s too shy, overly anxious etc. Women, or any gender, like a confident person who could take care of him/herself. And the problem, of course is, no one will tell the guy what the problem is because it will come off as rude. A pertinent issue is that men tend to be solitary and form less bond with others than women. Women give each other feedback, while for men, there isn’t anyone to receive feedback from. Many men instead end up losing their way to snake oil salesmen.

      I saw post on social media with female OP wondering why some men are still single. A lot of female commenters say many men are too anxious and over thinking. It reminds me of my friend who is good looking, but quite insecure. Looks don’t matter much to women and they prefer personality. Many insecure, single guys scoff when I say this, but look around and there are less physically attractive guys dating ridiculously good looking women. It is nuanced and looks matter to an extent, but it’s not a top priority to less shallow women. Women aren’t some mystical and mysterious goddesses who are untouchable.

      Women do have a point that men would do anything, including harmful stuff, than go to therapy. I’m glad that another friend of mine seems to be holding on his current relationship long, after I advised him to go to therapy.