[a sign reads FEMINIST CONFERENCE next to a closed door, a blue character shrugs and says…]
I don’t care

[next to the same door, the sign now says RESTRICTED FEMINIST CONFERENCE WOMEN ONLY, there are now four blue characters desperately banging on the door, one is reduced to tears on the floor, they are shouting]
DISCRIMINATION
SO UNFAIR!!!
LET US IINN!!
MISANDRY

https://thebad.website/comic/until_it_affects_me

  • brucethemoose@lemmy.world
    38·
    2 小时前

    For real.

    This is literally what happens in Lemmy’s women-only sub. Posters are still complaining about it in comments below.

    Ugh… I fear for the future of my sex. Sometimes, I want to slap some basic respect into other guys. Nothing fancy or philosophical, just “don’t be a dick, leave other human beings in peace” kind of common sense. Yet it feels like a losing battle.

    • galnamedzero@piefed.zeromedia.vipEnglish
      2·
      28 分钟前

      Here’s my take on it:

      I think we do deserve a private community of only women where women can have a safe place to talk about whatever they want without men. The problem is that this is not a private community, lemmy and piefed are fundamentally public spaces, not private, it is impossible and unreasonable to have a private community.

      Perhaps in the future we’ll gain the ability to make real private communities where users must be approved to view posts, but that’s not today.

      The mods of the community have the idea that it’s everyone else’s problem, that tens of thousands of people should go out of their way to remedy the issue by blocking the community just so a couple hundred (thousand?) people can have no responsibility for it.

      I participated in the community at the beginning of its existence (despite my username, I am not a guy), and have long since left and blocked it because I really hated how the mods treated others. Maybe it’s changed over the last 6 months or whatever, but they’ve left a permanent impression on me.

      • Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        1·
        4 分钟前

        The problem is that this is not a private community, lemmy and piefed are fundamentally public spaces, not private, it is impossible and unreasonable to have a private community.

        As of 1.6 Piefed does support ‘private’ (non-federating) communities that only people with certain assigned roles can invite others to: https://codeberg.org/rimu/pyfedi/releases/tag/v1.6.0

        The mods of the community have the idea that it’s everyone else’s problem, that tens of thousands of people should go out of their way to remedy the issue by blocking the community just so a couple hundred (thousand?) people can have no responsibility for it.

        I think it’s kind of wild to expect a community to be open to everyone or not exist at all on the fediverse, along with the idea that this is a huge burden on anyone except the mods of that community who have to clean up the comment section.

    • Bad@jlai.luOP
      28·
      2 小时前

      From personal experience posting my content on multiple platforms, Lemmy’s userbase is by far the most fragile one regarding sexism.

      Yes, even worse than Reddit, where this very comic had its comment section locked by the rcomics mods due to the hundreds of pissed off dudes crying in the comments. At least they get downvoted on Reddit. Lemmy really is dudebro land, and needs to fix that if it wants to grow further (which I would like as a Lemmy enjoyer).

      I’ve said this a few times already, and it usually makes Lemmy users uncomfortable, so I’ll keep repeating it as often as necessary.

      • Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        3·
        36 分钟前

        It’s the ultimate consequence of going all in on recruiting people from reddit, which I have been trying to tell people for years. You’re not making the fediverse better, you’re making it more reddity. There’s no point in leaving reddit while bringing the worst of the culture.

    • SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world
      4·
      1 小时前

      What I hate most about the women-only community is that there are so many interesting topics that I want to chime in, or that I forget to check which community it is before accidentally commenting against the rules, but I don’t wanna block the community because it’s still very interesting to read.

      I’d become a woman but that just seems like too much work

    • horn_e4_beaver@discuss.tchncs.de
      7·
      2 小时前

      tbf that sub’s rules are a joke.

      1 Women only

      3 Don’t hate on groups, hatefilled talk about groups is not allowed. Ever.

      But the sub does a hell of a lot of man bashing behind the ridiculous fig leaf of ‘not all men’.

      I block it.

      • Wren@lemmy.todayEnglish
        5·
        1 小时前

        Tell me you haven’t looked at a community without telling me you haven’t seen it.

        The top post of this week is about chocolate.

        The top post of this month is called “real men cry” and it’s about how men should be allowed to be emotionally vulnerable.

        Funny enough, the top post of the last three months is a screenshot of:

        “I see so many men saying feminism is bad. Please tell me which of my rights I don’t deserve as a woman. I’m curious.”