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    18 hours ago

    What I don’t understand is how anyone is capable of believing that a terribly lit picture of them tugging on their wiener over the toilet is sexually appealing.

    Dicks are beautiful when they’re framed with respect. There’s so much variety in size, color, shape… Grindr is a good place to go if you want art references because you’ll see how crazy different guys dicks are from each other. But so few men spend more than 5 seconds thinking about how to properly display their assets.

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      The way I see it is, guys generally are fine with any pic of women’s assets, like lots of girls also send just completely default titty pics and guys eat it up, so they probably think it works in reverse too.

      Also there’s plenty of women out there who are more interested in other features rather than dicks, meanwhile every straight guy is gonna be fine with any piece of titty or ass a woman shows them pretty much. I’ve talked to multiple women who didn’t care for seeing dick but they loved seeing cum, for example. I agree though, I never understood the point of sending random dick pics, I think guys who do that probably are doing it more for themselves as some kind of fetish rather than to impress women?

      As for the Grindr thing, I think that’s probably because the audience there is more into seeing dicks than the average woman 🤭 I agree, it is worthwhile to learn that but I understand it’s not something that comes naturally to most of us. Before I started hanging out in pornspaces I really had no clue either what women want to see and stuff.

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        8 hours ago

        More of a connoisseur. Grindr is a great place to get reference pics for art and I’d just appreciate a societal push for more effort in dick pic composition.

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      Because due to law of large numbers, it has worked for someone. The 99% who are disgusted by it are just a collateral damage. Of course it might have been a much more artistic picture of a dick, but that gets glossed over.

      There’s always the exhibition and degrading kink to consider as well. Flashers do exists and sending a random dick pick is rather easy. For the degrading kink, sending a random dick pick is sure way to get at least some insults or disgust effect.

      There might be just ego or inflated self esteem in the play as well.

      Though just for clarification, I’m not in any way defending it. I’m probably more baffled by most sexual behaviors than the average person. I have just been curious over the drivers of most sexual behaviors.

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    20 hours ago

    Hi, thanks for asking, could You describe it first, before showing actual offer? I’d like to take my time on that.

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    22 hours ago

    I actually did a version of this when I offered nudes to someone in public on a Discord server, she declined and I was like “thought so”.

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        19 hours ago

        The entire server went horny crazy, I was like “well, I have no problem just giving people nudes”.

        I eventually said as much.

        100% sure even if I am physically attractive, my personality is unfuckable.

        But that is ok.

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          Ok so it actually was a power move to essentially bonk everyone and send them to horny jail.

          That does actually make sense, as a tactic.

          You basically called everyone’s bluff.

          … but I also do need to tell you that there are solutions to an ‘unfuckable personality’.

          One is a ball gag.

          Another is … you can actually change.

          Yet another is… if you are genuienly ok with that… well then that actually is just fine.

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            15 hours ago

            Ok, I would not usually even consider for a dude, but fuck it, have to reward that.

            How do you want me? Also, without undies too?

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              15 hours ago

              Send me whatever you were going to send them.

              … probably in a DM. Unless… you … want to horny bonk all of lemmy. … I guess you could post to gone wild … ?

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    Really tired of the association between “Canadian” and “polite.” Canadian men are terrible at taking pictures of their dicks too, and they share those pics incessantly. Don’t let some of them read this and then think to themselves, “I’m polite about my grainy, unfocused, dick pics even if I don’t always ask, because I’m Canadian.”

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      Canadian men are terrible at taking pictures of their dicks

      It really is rude to compose shots so poorly.

      It’s like they’ve never bothered to learn to crank that F-stop while increasing the exposure to get that shallow depth of field. It gives an illusion of depth.

      I like to use a 60mm prime lens on an MFT to give it a crop-factor equivalent of 120mm.

      And go with a snooted strobe to get that shadow detail. Ring flashes are lazy and have no character.

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        See, I get you’re joking, but I’m not clear if it’s because you’re a hobbyist who saw an opportunity to info dump a bit for hyperbole, or if you’re using that hyperbole to suggest that it is an unrealistic expectation for dick pics to look sexy in any way possible (rather than just a dimly lit, unclear shot of someone’s unmaintained and unwashed patchy pubes and greasy dick)

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        Of course not, that’s why it’s a problem. Don’t act like you are unaware of the conception I’m talking about. I’m saying that the fact that it can be evoked and accepted so easily is a problem given that Canadians are hardly more polite than anyone else, and many if not most of them are bigoted in some major way.

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    I’ve had a few dudes approach me in a similar way. If you’re interacting in porno spaces online, it’s more common than you’d think, buuuut unfortunately still a lot less common than dudes who don’t treat me like a person.

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      Are unsolicited pictures of Dick Van Dyke ok?

      Oh, pants, now I’ve asked they won’t be unsolicited. I need to really rethink my dick game plans!!

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      They don’t treat you as a person on porno places and you are surprised?

      What kind of people do you think hang out there… Its not going to be people interested in your soul.

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        You sound like my closeted bisexual friend, who hates people who make money via adult websites. You still have some growing up, just like him.

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          It’s not growing up to use adult websites. :)

          I dont hate those people either. I wouldn’t want that life though.

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        What part of my post indicated surprise to you?

        To be clear, I’m never surprised when men are rude to me online, regardless of the space I’m in lol. I am generally disappointed that that’s the state of the Internet, which I think is the correct way to feel.

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      I dunno what age range of dick pics you get from people but I, for one, am glad I’m passed my dick pic sending era. You should definitely get treated like a person more often than it sounds like you do.

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        … I’ve never sent an unsolicited dick pic.

        Sure, if someone is asking… and like, we are actively, mutually sexting…

        I dunno.

        Never made any sense to me at all, to do that unprompted.

        Not trying to like, dog on you, I just literally don’t get it, how it would sense to do that.

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          I chalk it up to me being young, dumb, and too horny to really think things through before I would do that. I’m sure there’s something more lurking beneath but I haven’t given it enough thought to try and figure that of my psyche out.

          Cuz you right, it didn’t make sense to do it, ever, yet I did it and it was indeed stupid. Good on you for having better sense than I, only wish that was more common than it is.

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        We love character growth!

        I guess I should explain a little more: when people approach me with the intent to sext, or whatever, most of them are terrible and disrespectful about it. People who just message me to be like “I like your art!” (i’m a porno artist) or whatever still comprise most of the messages I get and those people are generally good :)

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          Ugh some people really don’t get that sex related skills are skills and people who are into them aren’t constantly horny and desperate

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            Personally, even if I was horny and desperate, I wouldn’t want to be approached that way lol! Definitely not with unsolicited dick pics.

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          Well that actually super nice to hear that the majority of messages you get are wholesome or kind in nature. It rekindles a little spark of hope in humanity in me that is always at risk of being snuffed out with everything going on in the world right now.

          Keep doing what you do kind stranger, you seem like a genuinely kind person.