The straights are not okay
ok so shes trying to sleep probably from a hard day work and here youre running all over the house turning on all the things and crawling up walls? what are you a cat?
the fuck is with lemmy quality lately? sounds like a bunch of abusers airing out their dirty laundry in an AA meeting.
That’s funny, but if this is really you, you have emotional and relationship work to do and need solo and couples’ therapy.
Have… Have y’all considered not marrying partners that you don’t share interests with? Like, I know I’m an edge case in that I’m 35, gay, and have never had a live in partner, but it’s really not that scary being single until you find someone you actually enjoy being with. Either it’ll happen or it won’t, but I’d rather be single and able to enjoy my hobbies and passions than be with someone who shares none of them.
how do we know the person who posted is not just being extra about reasonable boundaries?
You don’t have to share every hobby. You just need to not shame each other for enjoying different things.
Soooo, is buttsex a hobby?
I think it takes more dedication than most possess to call it a hobby but I have no doubt that there are some who could rightly call it that
Sometimes you just don’t discover everything out about that person even years after being with them. This is especially true when you meet at younger ages. Also everyone changes the older you get. The person you marry can absolutely change over a decade as everything becomes a never ending routine and you each find things you can no longer tolerate as much as you used to when you dated and tried harder (for some reason) to be like the other person. Knowing this now I wish it was mandatory for everyone to wait 5 years before getting engaged and 2 of those years has to be living together. Even then you never know who they will be 10 years from now. The worst part about getting older is wishing you knew all of what you know now but 20-30 years ago so you could have actually applied it when it mattered.
Very boomer/wife bad/facebook meme. Surprised to see it here.
She’s judging the husband for using a Sony product now that they’ve enshittified.
I’ve been annoyed since multi-player became a paid service since the ps3, but it’s nice to finally have some validation. Only took 20 years but…
E: and we can’t forget the rootkit fiasco either
Same!
And yeah, getting 2 free games for compromising all user data, months before they launch PSN plus with rotating free games… Felt odd…
stares lovingly at my PC
They enshittified long before the PS5 came out. I think it’s been about two decades since the music CD rootkit scandal, for instance.
Bit late to the party. They got caught infecting their customers’ machines with rootkits back in 2005.
I still cannot believe that no one went to jail over that.
I mean I can, corporations are only people when it results in a positive outcome for them, but still. A fucking rootkit.
Protip: You can turn that beep off so your wife won’t get pissed.
yeah but then he cant whine about like people requiring sleep at night like it is some sort of insult and pretend hes a victim to her rudeness for not slogging his dong.
we cant be having respect and consideration in these adult relationships!
Protip: you can set that beep as your phone’s notification sound.
What’s the fun in that?
Video games.
why not get a husband? similar interests right?
One of my best relationships was with a woman who enjoyed sex, movies, and videogames as much as I did. They’re out there.
So, uhhh, what happened to that relationship?
points to self yes, we are. we’re just kinda busy romancing Halsin in BG3 for the 47th time.
It’s always the bear.
🐻😉
BG3 has decent enough multiplayer NO EXCUSES! :-3
listen we can’t both fuck Halsi-
oh! wait! he’s poly! we absolutely can 🥰
Fuck it. Get two. Every night is boys night!
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ok boomer
Wife bad huh huh huh funny
To me this reads as “look how dysfunctional we are! I don’t know how to communicate! Lol!”
i heard “WAAAA BOUNDARIES!”
That’s exactly what it is. Unfortunately, a TON of people are in boats like this everywhere. Encourage them to seek help, is what I think would be the best course of action for literally everybody in the entire world.
Seems like she’s trying to sleep?
I can see how it would be very annoying to genuienly be trying to sleep, and someone is playing video games in the very same room.
Maybe move the console to the living room, use a headset?
If he’s got too much energy to sleep, and she wants sleep now… this seems mutually agreeable?
Maybe I’m an odd duck, but what’s always made sense to me, as a very light sleeper, is that a couple would each have their own beds, where they could sleep in the same bed when feeling more cuddly, or seperately when truly exhausted.
Sleep is for the weak. Now be my medic and cover me.
NOW, DOKTOR!
Should have asked what she wanted to do instead
Sleep
She wants you to know what she wants so she doesn’t have to do the work figuring it out, because she wants to be a child again.
My wife hates that she “always has to pick the restaurant,” when we go out. I cant make her realize she shot down my first 3 suggestions before asking what she wanted. Yes you pick because everything i suggest you dont want tonight and ill eat everything.
She can’t figure out what she wants and wants you to solve it, exactly. She has to pick because she wants to want the answers you give but she doesn’t. What’s it like for you to have to go through this repeatedly, does she know or care?
Ive gotten over itnas best i can. The worst is when i cook something, and she decides thats not what she wants, so she cooks something else for herself.
But she also gets upset that she does most of the cooking. Like yeah no shit. I dont need praise from you for everything i do, but less negative reinforcement would go a long way.
Therapy is helping though. I can hear it in the way she talks to our kids about life and how to treat others. So the realization is coming through
Sounds like the world isn’t meeting her needs and she’s bitter she has to meet her own. Sounds rough man, I feel for ya. So many men deal with wives and girlfriends like this.
Rooting for you too
More patient than me. I just got the divorce and now my ex and I are both happier.
Man I remember telling her one day when she came downstairs and I was feeding our newly diabetic son pancakes with syrup for breakfast and hearing “what are you doing? His blood sugar will go high?”. I stopped told her we would give him more insulin and then gave up and told here it was why I asked for a divorce. At no point was there a good morning. It was right into what I was doing and how it was wrong. God forbid we parent different.
Long story short I’ve put a lot of work in with the kids and they have every other week with me and I am doing my best to correct the issues created from our 10 years of marriage. Is she aware? I don’t think so. Even when she has the kids they still come to my house and I still have them for sleepovers. They don’t do the same with her.
In a way I feel sad for her.
“Whatever you want to do.”
“I have a headache.”
“I’m fine!”
Try having more money and those excuses vanish
Just buy another wife?
Wtf
So you’re saying that … a woman’s partner having more money … makes them… decisive?
Like, inherently?
… or because women only want to do things that cost a significant amount of money, and give noncommital answers when such money is not present?
I am genuienly trying to follow the logic here.
It has nothing to do with money. This is something people will struggle with sans agriculture and in a perfect gift economy utopia.
Only boring people are bored (and depression is not boredom).
depression can very much make you become bored by things you used to like, its called anhedonia and it doesnt always go away even after some pretty intensive treatments, or even if the depression itself is managed.
I’ve separated them purposefully because I think there’s an important semantic distinction. The boredom you describe is driven by disinterest due to neurochemical dysfunction.
That’s distinct from boredom as a state of mind which assumes or asserts that curiosity, entertainment, etc, are presented and consumed. There is not necessarily a chemical imbalance imposing this state on the mind.
If you like, you could reword the sentiment as; only boring people are bored (and those with depression are not necessarily boring).
I’ve considered that phrasing previously but found it diminishes the concept.
The lack of want is horrible to live with.
Yeah, that’s totally how it works.
It is in a healthy relationship.
No. In a healthy relationship you understand when the other one needs their me time and support them with it. That includes video games.
Maybe they should have expanded on their ‘nah’ then
Happy wife, happy life.
