Reading the comments…is there one actual guitar player here? Does anyone know what the fuck actually goes into setting the intonation and adjusting the action of the strings?
And people talking about permanent changes they could have made…what possible changes are getting done for 200…the proper parts alone would cost at least half of that and no one is doing work in a shop for free.
So presumably she had it set up which means strings were changed, intonation was properly setup and the action was adjusted with a truss rod check and some feet polishing.
If he’s pissed the intonation is correct hes just a shitty player.
Or he liked that it was his guitar that he salvaged with his own hands.
Tell me you’ve never played with out telling me you’ve never played
Depends how it was “fixed” If the pro tuned it to make it sound perfect that’s great. But probably anon got the damage repaired, taking away its charm and character. Of course anon doesn’t even know the difference between these two things.
Do you play?
If you have to ask the internet if you are an asshole then it’s either because you are definitely an asshole, or because you are karma farming - in which case, you are an asshole.
the AITA on reddit is one of it’s most popular things, and lots of people farm content from it.
because people love judging the shit out of other people and explaining how awful they are. or justifying their assholery.
it’s arm chair quarter backing other people’s relationship drama. and everyone is an NFL relationship coach in their own mind.
people ask the internet because social approval is very important to folks and they need to have their biases validated.
Narcissists feeding on other narcissists. Reddit was full of those people, and Lemmy also has them.
Electric guitars are little more than a piece of wood, metal strings, and a transducer. For a lot of musicians what matters most is the sentimental value of their model. What she did was basically rob the owner of that.
What exactly do you think was altered and stolen exactly?
I never really understood paying a lot of money for a solid body electric; it really is just the sum of its parts.
I bought a budget epiphone Les Paul and just swapped out the electronics (and tuning knobs) with resale Gibson parts. Sounds great for less than $400.
I for one don’t like people touching my shit. Especially shot that I’ve already put effort into myself. Ask first before you do something like that.
I fucking hate people who think they are ‘helping’ me or ‘fixing’ things for me.
They tend to be condescending assholes who think they ‘know better’.
Like no, bitch, I know what I like and I have chosen this deliberately.
Can’t tell you how many people like give me shit about my home, my kitchen, my pantry, my bikes, my car, etc. These people tend to think nothing is worth anything unless it’s the latest, greatest, trendiest, most expensive version of a thing. Like, apparnetly if I don’t own a Tesla, live in a grey-white box, and own $10,000 bicycles or $1000 knives, I am ‘struggling’ at life or something
I also love how people like this insist that you must perpetually be in therapy and/or have a personal trainer… or you are ‘not doing the work’. Just because you’re a lazy loser who exercise or be mentally health without paying someone to do it for you, doesn’t mean the rest of us live our lives that way.
Or the people who refer to everything as cheap just because it’s not “expensive”. I know people who are so fucking condescending because according to them everything else is cheap. Ok, you have an expensive ass Thermador fridge…whose ice machine hasn’t worked in 6 years. Wow, those certainly are an expensive LG washer dryer set…that you need to leave the door open on because its drainage is shit and will get musty and grow mildew if the door is closed. Nice new Volvo, with all the LaTeSt SaFeTy FeAtUrEs while you still refuse to even look at the backup camera and yet manage to hit curbs.
I have a newer LG washing machine in my house. It smells like the sewage line is backing up into it … which I know it isn’t because it free-drains into a utility sink.
Whenever they’re finished with laundry they have to leave the doors open. I don’t recall of it’s a drainage problem or just shitty design but all the moisture/water isn’t removed. It’s a known flaw and last I heard LG and other manufacturers with similar problems have done fuck-all about it
Ya know, it should have been obvious to me that there was a problem like this, since there’s always condensation on the lid (which is clear glass for no good fucking reason) after I’m done with a load.
Depends what “fix” means, but if you didn’t get ripped off for $200, yes.
Getting it professionally tuned isn’t unreasonable imo, especially if the neck/pegs are misaligned, but in no world should that cost $200 (and don’t try to fix a misalignment).
Once you start making changes that can’t be undone, you’ve crossed the line. Get it tuned, get a nice strap (with mounting hardware, if needed), get a polishing kit or nicer case, hell, even get a replacement bridge/pegs and tools for working with a guitar, but don’t make permanent changes yourself (or have anyone else do so). All of those together could be well over $200, but you’d describe that as a tuneup and buying accessories, not taking the guitar “to a pro to fix it.”
Caveat that some people don’t like non-musicians or anyone else even touching their instruments, but I’d like to think that would be obvious to a spouse, even one who might have assumed that permanent changes to an instrument they don’t own are okay.
I’m a non-musician and my husband has a somewhat beaten up, but favored instrument that he learned on, so I’ll send this to him to see if my instinct is right (for my relationship, which does not mean it would be right for anyone else).
Though tbf, even thinking it might be okay, I got my husband a new instrument instead of messing with his beloved one, just because it occurred to me that he might react like the husband in the OP, and I didn’t want to risk it. Of course, he could also have then felt guilty about using the new one because it’s not the one he loves and felt guilty about using the old one because I gifted him a “nicer” one. I was lucky in that he’d already branched out into related instruments and the new one could fill a new niche, so wouldn’t compete with the old, making me less worried about him feeling conflicted [I’m so sorry about that sentence, I’m imagining trying to structure it in German without nominalizing any of the clauses and… woof].
I sent him the green text, and apparently he offered to fix a friend’s instrument in the past and got an earful. He would have been fine with me getting his old one fixed up, but he’s happy to have the new one
It’s like taking someone’s tried and true Windows 7 machine and upgrading it to Windows 11.
At this point machines that can run windows 7 and those that run windows 11 don’t overlap. So yea, would be annoying to install something that won’t run at all.
No, that’s nothing at all like a repair, that’s a downgrade
some poorly done repairs can be a downgrade
Could be, but it isn’t
Worse, if somebody took your 64gb of ram Linux Thinkpad and gave you a chrome book
fake: 4chan poster has a husband
Gay: 4chan poster has a husband
Asshole: no.
Misguided: yes.
His reaction isn’t unreasonable. Misplaced well intentioned actions likely will not end as intended. Ultimately, she didn’t get it. She misunderstood what he loved about the guitar.
The whole idea of “surprises” is complete bullshit. Social media has really over romanticised this to an extreme (big surprise! Big reaction video! Completely staged. Isn’t that soooo romantic and adorable). When my wife gets a present, it costs quite a lot. I’m not going to take a chance of judging her taste, pick a brand I know nothing about and try to guess what she would like. We’ve got an agreement that we pick our own presents and make our plans together. No surprises bullshit. Might be boring by social media standards, but it’s the best I can do.
There are plenty of kinds of surprise that can be wonderful in the right context. Perhaps easiest is when someone tells you they want/would like something, you keep an eye out for opportunities, and surprise them when it comes around. (My wife wanted to see a comedian. I subscribed to their newsletter, and then got (refundable) tickets when they were performing near us, years later.) There can also be things that you are confident someone else will like, which they don’t know exist. (I bought a friend a battery operated pruner after seeing him struggle to keep up with bushes.) Or small things that someone likes (flowers, chocolate, breakfast in bed, depends a lot on what they are into).
The guitar repair was the worst kind of surprise: something irreversible, which the surprisee clearly knew about, and has chosen not to do at every single opportunity - while the surpriser doesn’t know why they are choosing not to. That’s not respectful, which is the absolute minimum requirement for a surprise to work.
The modern western version of “gifts” is really about pushing over-consumption. If marketers cannot convince you to buy something yourself, they can try to convince someone else to buy it for you.
I’ve always felt that gifts should be tokens. Symbols of good will, reminders of the relationship. Consumable gifts are great, especially when shared with the giver. Alcohol is great for this, but there’s plenty more you can do. Small, inexpensive art prints or figurines.
I don’t want someone else to buy me something I woukd want to research myself. My parents gave me a “snow thrower” for Christmas a couple years ago. Its a relatively cheap, Ryobi 40v thing- I do not own anything else that uses that battery ecosystem. My step-dad loves his, and I am it is great for their 2-car driveway, but my driveway can probably fit like 10 cars in it, and I would have rather saved up for something nicer myself. Now i’m in this weird limbo where I feel socially obligated to use it for several years at least before I replace it with something I actually want.
The way I do gifts with my Mom is I have a wishlist of things I’ve researched, and she picks from it.
That way what I’m getting is still a surprise, but it’ll be something I actually want.
The way I do gifts with my wife is she either gets me concert lawn seat tickets, or something fun to wear for me.
I’m a school bus driver and I get tips from the kids (really, the parents) at Christmas and the end of the school year, usually in the form of gift cards. It’s still such a weird concept to me, but the thing I truly appreciate is hand-written (by the kids themselves) cards that express their appreciation and affection. It also saves me from having to go to Target (the most common gift card) and find something there that I actually want.
My sentiment exactly. Every Christmas I get more junk I don’t need, or stuff that I do need, but would have rather researched myself. I hate having a bunch of random knick-knacks and novelty items cluttering up my house, but I also feel guilty getting rid of gifts.
Don’t buy me gifts, don’t bring me souvenirs, I don’t need more novelty t-shirts.
I don’t understand this insane fixation that society has with gifts being “surprises”, I find to so annoying, sometimes it even ends up being worse than not giving anything at all the gift is genuinely useless.
One particularly bad case in experience of a surprise gift for me, was when my mom decided to surprise me with a computer as gift, specially since this is a significal finnancial burden, one of which could have been partially relifed by letting me choose and pick parts, but even though we had an agreement to let me pick the parts she just decided randomly to buy a prebuilt instead without notifying me at all, when I was extremely angry at her for this and when I questioned her horrible decision, she said: “I just wanted you to have a happy surprise” and tried to make emotionally guilty trip me when I didn’t show any thankfulness for the gift with: “Why don’t you love me? I do everyrhing for you”
Why? do people assume that I want a surprise? why is this idea so ingrained into people’s brain that when I ask to simply give tge money one would have spent instead in buying the gift, that is seen somehow as rude, what is so rude about trying make the most out of the money would’ve been spent into a worthless sock I didn’t ask nor need?
My fiance literally sent me the ring she wanted for our engagement.
Surprises suck, communication rocks!
Talk with her about it.
If she paid for the fucking thing, though, that might be a win!
asshole: yes. Maybe he enjoyed the fact he fixed it himself and didn’t want anyone else to fix it. She decided getting it to look whatever she considered good was more important than whatever he felt was good about it.
I kind of have a hard time imagining such a thing being done with sincerely good intentions, how many people would really do that? Easy to imagine it as a way to exercise power over someone with a plausible pretense though.
This is projection
Don’t fuck with people’s shit without asking wtf. Life isn’t like TV, not every surprise is going to be appreciated.
Yeah, you don’t fuck with shit a person is that attached to because you think it “looks rough”
Clearly a professional agreed that it didn’t just look rough, the shit was damaged
Firstly, they’ll repair and/or make any guitar look better. It’s their job so they’ll do it. Secondly and more importantly, it isn’t about if the guitar is damaged or not. It was clearly loved for what it was, it was probably more about the history of it than anything else.
It’s really not hard to not fuck with other peoples stuff without their consent. And it’s real sad that people like you exist that don’t seem to understand that..ml in a nutshell
Lol cope
It absolutely is about whether the guitar was damaged or not, that’s extremely relevant information and you’re trying to disregard it because that’s the only way you have any chance of not sounding like a complete fucking moron
There’s not enough context here to say that with any certainty. If husband was playing it and enjoying it, then it’s doing the job it needs to. Even if it was actually broken and actually fixed, it still changes the relationship between player and instrument and could’ve easily taken away earned character as a way to make it look “nice”
I don’t have a lot of sympathy for the idea of damage as character or lack of maintenance for a musical instrument as an aesthetic decision rather than just a bad decision, but you’re right about there not being enough information
So you think Willie Nelson should replace the top on Trigger?
A worn appearance is often desired on old guitars. In some cases, it can even increase its value.
That, and the OP probably did what would be considered finishing someone’s puzzle for them.
Currently in the market for a vintage and, while I agree with your sentiment, unless the guitar’s name is Trigger I’ve only seen prices drop with wear and tear.
Oof, this is a rough one. While I appreciate the gesture, that’s a personal thing. That’s like taking someone’s favorite pair of jeans and getting them hemmed because they’d frayed at the heel. Sometimes the wear and tear is what we value.
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